Post # 17
@shonzilla Hey!! I’m actually so confused, I thought he had the ring for sure, and I thought he was going to propose last weekend because of the way he was acting, but lately he’s been telling me that he STARTED saving money, so I know he definitely doesn’t have the ring! I think he’s just trying really hard to keep it a secret. This weekend we had a family reunion and everyone started asking us when why we’re not married yet, and he kept giving vague answers. When I asked if I could get more information than everyone else, he said no 😛
So in the end I think I had engagement brain, and it’ll be a couple months before it happens!!
Or maybe he was doing it on purpose to drop hints before and see how i would react.
Post # 18
I KNOW my SO doesn’t have a ring, or plans to buy one any time soon, but we talk about the future all the time (ie: “so if we want 3 kids within 7 years it’d be wise to start in 2” etc) and he LOOOVES to tease me all the time! Every birthday/xmas/anniversary/valentine’s day he’ll hint about a “big surprise” coming… Then he’ll be like “SURPRISE! I got you exactly what you were expecting! This lululemon jacket!”
Post # 19
I am so glad that I found weddingbee.com and your post. My boyfriend has already asked my family for their blessing (which he received), has told his family about proposing to me, already has my ring, yet hasn’t proposed and it’s really driving me a little crazy. I think he’s had the ring for about two weeks or so, and he keeps teasing me asking if I want to see the pictures antd will I say yes, etc… My mom even recently joined in by playfully saying “I know something you don’t know…” which she followed by stating she knows when he’s going to propose. They don’t usually tease me, my family and bf are soooo loving and I know they’re just doing it so it’ll be a surprise, but it’s really bothering me. When we run into some of his old friends or family friends, he now introduces me as his fiancée’ (although in my mind I want to say – “nope, no ring is on my finger,” but I don’t). He’s also gotten down on one knee playfully before, asked me to marry him (but I knew it was a joke the way he asked); he said he wants to make sure I’ll say yes or whatever. We are in our super early 30’s and it’s just not cool to joke all the time and make me think it’s the moment when it’s not. 🙁
I really thought that he’d propose over the weekend after we had a long walk near a riverpark and great conversation about the future, but he didn’t; I even dressed up a little more than usual and straightened my hair because in my mind, it was happening on that day. Later that evening I just broke down into tears. I finally told him what was bothering me and that I thought he was going to propose during our walk – my fault for getting my hopes up.
I know it sounds like I’m whining, but if you knew me, you’d know that I’m super laid back about almost everything. Not knowing right now is driving me crazy. We’ve previously talked about a Spring 2014 ceremony, but if he doesn’t hurry, places will be booked. He keeps saying, let’s keep looking at sites & make reservations, but I’m tired of people looking at my empty finger and asking to see my invisible ring. I’ve read other posters on here who thought that they ruined their proposal and I don’t want to do that, but I am so frustrated. When I broke down in tears, he told me it won’t be much longer & to just believe in him and everything will be fine and happen soon enough. What does that even mean?!?
Post # 20
I’m sure he has something in mind!! I know it’s hard to wait, my SO is extremely secretive and keeps telling me that it’s gonna happen soon… so I’m just waiting! I’m also super laid back but I went through a phase of thinking that every moment was THE moment, but nothing ever happened lol. Maybe you can just tell him to stop teasing you until it’s really happening, that way you can just wait without constantly being reminded by his hints and all… I’m sure it’ll happen soon! We’re thinking of getting married in summer 2014 so mine needs to hurrry up too or else everything will be booked and we’ll have to get married in a parking lot.. haha. good luck, hang in there!!
Post # 21
@geekychinchilla: HAHA! OMG I WOULD JUST DIE! I know my SO has the ring and should be prosing soon! but He just completely ignores it like nothing is going to happen. If his mom brings up wedding stuff he’s like “IDK why you’re talking about it because were not engaged!” Even though it frustrates me to no end. I think I prefer his complete denial verse all the hype!
Post # 22
Haha! Mine is somewhere in between, he’ll bring it up with me all the time, but then as soon as our families ask he pretends there’s nothing going on, it’s so confusing!
Post # 23
AHH! that is too much! haha! Actually last night my dress for our cruise came it (specificaly for our date night!) and hes like “O its nice why is it so fancy?” 1st its not crazy fancy just a long maxi in navy. 2nd What am I not going to be prepared!? -_- ….UGG MEN!
Post # 24
I wish I was getting hints!! I know it’s not going to happen until late next year at best. He has straight up told me that I’m going to help him pick out the ring and we haven’t even been shopping yet. We haven’t talked about a real timeline, but we’ve talked about short term goals and longterm goals. His short term goal is to get a better job so he can save up for a ring and then marry me 🙂
I could totally talk myself into believing it’ll happen soon… maybe he said that to throw me off, or the fact that he’s said he won’t buy the new Play Station or XBox for a while could lead me to believe he’s saving money up for a ring along with the fact that he keeps suggesting we do/buy things that are less expensive than what we’re usually comfortable with.
Ugh! I just keep repeating to myself… not ’til next year… not ’til next year… not ’til next year!!
Post # 25
@geekychinchilla: I dont’ know if you’ve ever seen the Office (the US version) but there’s a scene in which one character fake proposes/ tricks another character into thinking she’s being proposed to…
I watched that series with my SO, and when he fake proposed, my SO laughed WAY TOO loud, and suggested that he would be doing that, when he decided to propose. To keep me on my toes… Initially I hated the idea. I am warming up to it now, as it seems cute, and would certainly put me on edge, in an —I think— good way. But if we ever get to that point, and he actually does it, I might be singing a different tune!
Post # 26
You are a better woman than me! I would kill him! Well – some loud fussing and pouting for an hour or so along with smart-ass reminders for the next few days. UGH, I would die.