Post # 1
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Worker bee
Hey all! So I know alot of attention has been given to DOC and the debate about to do/ or not to do. But my inquiry is that I want a day of helper. My Bridesmaid or Best Man, mainly my Maid/Matron of Honor will be there along with my ever helpful mother to make sure that the ceremony goes off without a hitch, but I am wanting to hire an acquantice that I previously worked (serving) with to finish the last minute details at the reception site, be there to hlep keep things cleaned up and open bottles of wine at our help your self wine & beer station…other than that she could enjoy herself. She would prob be there from 3 till about 9. Would this be okay to ask her? She has the personality and the ability to do this. If so would $100 be okay compensation? I am on a very tight budget but I know that these are the few things I would worry about if I did not have someone else doing it.
Post # 4
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Busy bee
@jhilliard: It can’t hurt to ask! Instead of giving her $100 flat out you could give her an Amazon gift card or pay for her hotel or something. I am doing the same thing actually. A little different because my friend volunteered to do it for free, but I don’t feel comfortable not giving her anything. My only concern is, is this her profession? If so, $100 is pretty low. If she is local and you think she would just have fun doing it though then it might work out.
Post # 5
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Busy bee
@secretbee33: Also if you covered her meal and she could drink a bit I’d say it’s a pretty good deal. In other words if she is a guest who would be helping out a little
Post # 6
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Worker bee
She is in the town where we are having it, and no it is not her profession, we worked alot together on serving banquets and big parties and her and I think alike in terms of what needs to get done, etc…and heck yes she would be able to drink, eat and even join in the games and dancing but just keep a watchful eye out for those pesky little details so I will not have too!
Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
My BM’s and Maid/Matron of Honor didn’t have the time to be coordinating ANYthing. I had a very good friend be our DOC, she knew my vision and she coordinated set up with other people who were gracious enough to help, coordinated everyone walking down the aisle, when to bring out cake etc… I’d absolutely hire someone for a decent fee if I hadn’t had a friend to help
Post # 8
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Bumble bee
I would go just a little bit higher, but it depends on where you live and what you are used to for wages. I’d go with 20/hr, or 120 total, but knowing that if she stays even later (which I feel like might happen), she will get paid extra.
Post # 9
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Helper bee
I’ve been married for a while and usually hang over on the nesting & fitness boards- but I wanted to pop in and encourage you to go for it if she’s into it! I don’t know about compensation, so I can’t comment on that- but my only regret was not having a DOC!
I had a very intimate DIY wedding (only 40 guests) with no bridesmaids. I did everything myself the day of (decorating the ceremony & reception as well as preparing food & drinks!) and because of that, I missed my beauty appointments for the day. I walked down the aisle looking …well, like my normal every day self. Haha. Not really bridal short of my dress! I also spent a little too much of the reception refilling drinks or cleaning. I’m a fairly laid back person, so this wasn’t upsetting at the time, but I do wish I could have saved a little extra cash in my super tight & tiny budget to have someone else be responsible for all that! It would have helped me enjoy the day a bit more and stress a bit less! 🙂
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