Post # 1
Hello Fellow Bees!
My fiance and I are moving into a house and thought it’d be really cool to have a His and Hers Shower for just our friends. Since we will need things for our home that don’t come from our place of registry (we registered at Target only), we though it’d be neat to have a gift card shower where people bring gift cards from Home Depot or Lowes and other places like that. I know it’s rude and tacky to request a certain type of shower so is there any way to go about having a shower like this without coming off rude? Obviously, we can’t host it ourselves. One of my bridesmaids I’m super close to and can tell her anything… Could I ask her to host if I pay for all food and decorations and whatnot?
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Post # 3
@dreamer1288: If you want more opinions on a previous post you can just “bump” it or post a short request for more opinions.
It is not unusual for couples to register at places like Home Depot or Lowe’s, so haviing a his and her shower is not the issue.
The issue is you shoudl not be promoting, requesting, or basically hosting a shower for yourselves. If someone wants to host a shower for you, and approaches you for your input, that would be your opportunity to state your preference.
A gift card shower would be incredibly boring to attend, but you would still have to open the gifts and acknowledge them.
Post # 4
@julies1949: I have no idea what it means to “bump” haha! Sorry, I’m still learning :).
My fiance brought up the idea of gift cards. We have no idea what we’re going to need for our new house as far as garden stuff and actual renovation stuff goes, that’s why we didn’t want to register for certain items. I’ve been to gift card showers before and they have still been fun because of the games, food, and mingling. Since it’d be a hers and his (I’m talking like our closest friends so… 12 – 13 people) where everyone already knows each other, there would be no awkward silences or anything. The guys kind of want to just watch football on my fiance’s flat screen TV and grill out lol.
Thanks for your opinion. I don’t want to promote or host a shower for ourselves but the point of having showers is being given things to help you in your new life.
Post # 5
@dreamer1288: We have been to several “couples showers”, so I dont take issue with that. Or the gift card theme, as I guess those are gaining popularity. But like juilies1949 said, make sure YOU are not planning or instructing others on how to plan your shower. If someone comes to you and says “hey, I want to host a shower for you, did you have any ideas in mind?” then I think you could tell them.
Post # 6
You could always host a housewarming party. If you really want to encourage people to think of Home Depot/Lowes for gifts, you could always mention something on the announcement like “It’s our first house! Tell us about your favorite home improvement project or inspiration so we can get ideas!”.
Post # 7
I’m going to close this thread and direct conversation back to the original so we can avoid confusion. 🙂
Please continue the discussion here: