(Closed) His "Aunt Velma"

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
4830 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’d suggest picking your own florist.  Best to keep family and friends separate from vendors – no matter how well intentioned family/friends are.   

Post # 4
1188 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I agree with PP.  Mixing family/friends with business is a no-no in my book.  It’s just too difficult with family dynamics to get what you want without stepping on toes.

Post # 5
585 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@NurseShannon:  When she said ‘do your flowers’ is it possible she meant she would like to pay for your wedding flowers?  I think either way, saying you’ve already found a florist is probably the most delicate way to handle it.


Post # 6
7643 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@NurseShannon:  Be careful about lying, she might ask who your florist is. I’d try for a more vague, “My mother and I already have our own plans for the flowers”.

Is there another event she can do flowers for? e.g. the bridal shower?

Post # 7
1093 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@paula1248:  +1

Lieing always bites you in the bum.  I’d be honest, say you don’t want to mix family and vendors. 

At the same time…. flowers are super expensive and she could be totally amazing! it 

Instead of doing all the flowers, maybe she can do the bouts or the Bridesmaid or Best Man bouquets or something small? 

Post # 8
1275 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I totally think it would be nice if you had her do something on a smaller scale. That way you still get what you want and she feels like she is doing something

Post # 9
529 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I dunno .  This is tough .  How does your Fiance feel about her? I LOVE my Niece just so much and we are tied at the hip. She’s only 2 but I hope to always be so close to her.  I would never call her Fiance my future son in law or say make me grand babies bc I’m her AUNT but a close relationship is not a bad Thing , least IMO. 

If your Fiance feels very close to her and his mother is ok w the relationship i would let Fiance guide this one making sure he knows how hard it will be for aunt to be a part of wedding while also a vendor . 

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