- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
My fiancee got his bachelor party two nights ago, and the whole thing has left me so upset that I am close to losing my sanity. We are supposed to get married this coming Sunday.
I have never been a fan of bachelor parties where there are stippers or adult entertainment dancers involved because I think it shows disrespect towards the bride. All of a sudden she needs to accept behavior from other women towards her beloved, that she wouldn’t accept on a normal night, only because it’s his bachelor.
So why I am so upset is because the following happened. I had my bachelorette two weeks ago. And my Maid/Matron of Honor worked really hard to throw me a sophisticated and decent party. No stripper involved, no dirty games. In our tradition bride and groom won’t see each other the week leading up to the wedding day.
So, his groomsmen could have known that putting off the bachelor untill the very last weekend would be robbing us of quiet time before we have our seperation period. Well they went ahead and did it anyway.
So they told me it would be Sunday, and maybe they would do something Saturday night but it would be mainly Sunday. So Saturday night they show up, start drinking and trying to get my fiancee drunk in our house. They dress him up and then as they are about to leave (after 1.5 hour) they tell my fiancee to get some underwear and a t-shirt to sleep in. And that’s when it dawned on me that it was a 24 thing and that he was not going to sleep at home.. and that our last night together had gone up in smoke like that because they didn’t bother to tell me…
So, by the time they had left, it was too late to ask a friend to come over, so I had a sleepless night by myself, feeling akward for not being told that it was a night and day thing and for not being told that they would start the bachelor with “drinking-in” at our house.
The next morning one of the groomsmen’s girlfriend came around to help me witj decorations, and guess what she did know it was a night and day thing. In fact all girlfriends of men invited knew their boyfriends wouldn’t be coming home.
But for me the thing was so badly plannend because by the time the party was over I wasn’t going to be there. So the last image I have of my fiancee before seeing him at the wedding, is of him already half drunk, dressed up in such a way that I feel too ashamed to write it down here.
So, yesterday my fiancee told me over the phone what happened at the party.
They went to a stripclub, and had a girl dancing for them. And then she had a chat with them, asking my fiancee when he was getting married and asking if I am a nice girl. My fiancee knows how I feel about strippers and exotic dancers, and I am just so disappointed that he did go in the end. Also because the contrast with my bachelorette is so extreme.
I feel disrespected by his friends for not telling me propperly what was going to happen. And I think I could have handled my emotions about my fiancee going to a stipclub even though he knows how
I feel about it, a lot better if I had been talked to before hand.
Now I’m just upset, and I won’t be able to talk face to face, so my last week before the big day, which is supposed to be a relaxing week, is stressfull and upsetting.