(Closed) His bachelor party. UGH.

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I would be pissed, too. Not because you don’t trust your fiance, I get that..but because she’s inserting herself into something that is not hers to insert. Like…if I’M not hanging with the guys, why is she? It’s a freaking dude’s weekend. She’s lame.

How does your fiance feel about it? I guess, essentially, it’s his party.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I’d be pretty upset too. My reasoning? It’s suppose to be a bachelor’s party, not a let’s go out and party and leave the Fiance behind party. It’s suppose to be guys!

ETA: If it were my SO talking about doing this, I’d put my foot down. I’m pretty lenient, I want him to have fun and hang with his friends, but this is a bit ridiculous. Either it’s all guys or you go as well.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@mags2233:  I don’t think you should contact Brenda.  She’ll love that.  She’ll think of it as evidence that you’re “jealous” of her and her friends and it will just make her want to go even more.

In my mind it is completely up to your Fiance to put a stop to this.  Women have no business going on a Vegas bachelor trip.  It’s a BACHELOR party.  What is wrong with that guy that he can’t detach from her tit for one weekend, anyway?  Sorry, but this sounds so ridiculous.

It is your FI’s bachelor party.  He should, IMO, tell them that if Brenda and the girls go on this trip, he will not be going.

I wouldn’t put up with that in a thousand years.  If it happened to me, there would be no wedding for them to come back to.  I would seriously put my foot down.  To HIM, not to Brenda. 

Let your Fiance and his groomsmen handle Brenda.

Good luck with this.

Post # 7
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Busy bee

If this type of situation presented itself with my guy, I don’t think I’d need to say anything. He and the others would simply tell Brenda’s boy toy that he needs to make an independent trip or they will plan something different on their own. I wouldn’t say that we have had something just like this happen, but the guys in his circle with annoying wives who try to be controlling over these types of situations know when to put their foot down and stand up for their desire to just do something nice for their friend.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Sunfire:  I agree with this, 100%. Fiance needs to man up on this and put his foot down, no chicks allowed 🙂

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Wow,  sorry you are dealing with this.  There is absolutely no way that is appropriate.  This is to be a guys thing, not a guys and hook up girls thing.  I would tell my Fiance that it’s not acceptable and while you can’t tell him what to do, you can tell him what kind of behavior you won’t tolerate.  I would never marry anyone who followed through on a trip like this.  It’s acceptable behavior from a bunch of single guys, not ones that are in commited relationships (married or not)  Just my opinion and I”m sure others disagree…Good luck with handling this 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Oh and I forgot to mention that this is made even worse by the fact that one of the girls that might go was involved with your Fiance at one time.  Sorry,  I would put my foot down on this one.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Yeah it is his bachelor party…if he dosn’t want her to go then he needs to speak up. You really should not have to be put in this position.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@mags2233:  Yeah this is not cool AT ALL.  Your Fiance needs to put his foot down on this one.  I think that is so rude of “Brenda” to bring someone your Fiance used to hook up with!! WHAT IS SHE THINKING?  Some people just boggle my mind…

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think your Fiance should just let this guy know he can hang out with Brenda or he can hang out with the boys, but the boys WILL NOT be hanging out with the stains girls.

 

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