Post # 32
I think that what really bothered me is that his dad:
a) knows how badly I want to be engaged
b) has welcomed my BFs sister’s fiancé (okay – I realize they just had a baby and are now engaged) into the family way more than he has welcomed me – we have been together for over 3 years they haven’t even been together for a year and half – all he says now is “my future son in law”
c) I have done so much for his family (because I want to of course, but still) – BFs mom is sick – and he introduces me as the “roommate”
Post # 33
Argh…. that is frustrating,
I can totally relate to that as well. I have been with my Fiance for almost 9 years. we have lived together for just as long and we even bought a house together 2 years prior to our engagement. So it frustrated me no end that his brother’s wife (they met 3 years ago got engaged 2 yrs ago and wed 1 year ago) had the nerve to welcome me to the family.
Post # 34
I guess I am different, but he was being rude. At least if it were me, I would have been insulted.
Just like my aunts call my boyfriend, my future husband and father of my children one day, my “friend”. Ticks me off quite often.
Post # 35
I know that he wasn’t trying to be rude – but I was totally insulted.
Post # 36
simpleandchic- I hate to say this, but it’s deserved here: Oh,no she didn’t! The nerve of her when you’ve known them almost 3 times as long.
Post # 37
Ugh that sucks. My grandma still refers to my fiancee as my “friend” or “that man”. It will be interesting to see how she interacts with him when they meet at Christmas for the first time. She’s having a lot of trouble with the idea that he’s not from the U.S.
Post # 38
Ok,sorry! I may just be overly sensitive.LMAO
Post # 39
Although he didn’t mean it, I would have my boyfriend talk to him about it. Sometimes my bf parents says some things and I talk to by bf about it and he will tell them (explain to them that I’m not mad but it kinda bothered me).
Post # 40
I totally agree with you. It was rude (I can be overly sensitive too ) – I just mean I know that he wasn’t trying to hurt my feelings intentionally.
Post # 41
People always think I’m the sister. We look nothing alike, so I can only assume they think one of us is out of the other’s leage and dragging their homely sibling somewhere.
Or maybe it’s just that there’s five years’ age difference (which at 20 and 25 seems like a big deal to everyone around us). Or maybe we actually do look alike, but my crazy self conscious side believes the first explanation.
Post # 42
boston_girl, maybe his dad was trying to upset you ever so slightly so you could light a fire under his son’s bum? Maybe he says “well I have a daughter but I’ve always wanted two sons”, or even is just closer to your BF’s sister? I mean, shoot me in the arm here, but perhaps he feels that there’s a stronger bond to be had between two men? I’m not trying to justify him or anything, just offering some thoughts.
@sweetc, for the longest of times, my dad was not happy about BF, or at least couldn’t accept that I was schmoodly with BF, and when he would call he’d ask how my “… … friend…” was doing. It wasn’t until just recently that he full out said “boyfriend”, and BF and I are going on four years.
Post # 43
Ouch, I’m sorry, that does sting. 🙁
Post # 44
(sorry haven’t read everyone’s responses)…
totally understand your feelings…his mom introduced me just as his “friend” when I first met the family! it sucks – but it’ll get better. i promise. 🙂
Post # 45
OMG!! That is kind of sad and funny at the same time. My bf’s father introduces me as his daughter in law and I’m like, ummmmm, we are not married, I dont even have a ring! LOL
But maybe it was a dig at my bf. Who knows…..
Post # 46
That’s kind of hilarious. I think it means that your guy’s dad wants him to hurry up and make it official!
Yesday my grandma said to me, “He hasn’t even given you a TINY diamond yet? I don’t understand these grandaughters of mine!”
And the best was:
Grandma: “Even at my age  I’m not a grandmother!”
Me: “Ummm…you’re my grandmother.”
Grandma: “Well I’m not a great-grandmother and I’m going to die before you even get married!”
Love it, ha ha! I always brush this stuff of by saying that it’s impolite to get married before my older sister.