Post # 1
Do I have to ask his daughter to be a bridesmaid? She is fourteen and the least “girly” girl on the planet. I cannot imagine getting a dress for her and asking her to stand in front of people. I think just getting a dress to wear to the wedding will be difficult. I would also rather have just a Maid/Matron of Honor.
Post # 3
I think it might be nice to ask her, just in a low key sort of way. She probably won’t want to actually do it, but will likely appreciate the offer to be included.
Post # 4
Well, you don’t HAVE to, but I think it would be a nice, welcoming gesture if you made her a junior bridesmaid. Do you have a good relationship with his daughter? The tone of your post kinda makes it sound like no, you don’t, but tone doesn’t always come across properly in posts so I’m not assuming one way or the other.
Post # 5
I disagree actually, but I would talk to your Fiance and see how he feels. At 14 I would’ve hated doing something like that. If she’s shy, I wouldn’t even ask her to do a reading. But if you want her to feel included, you might give her options and ask her if she’d like to do any of them (reading, ushering, etc.) or none at all.
Post # 6
You should definitely include her in some way, but talk to her – not every 14-year-old non-girly-girl would *want* to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man. Maybe she’ll want to, or she could be a reader, or you could make vows to each other (that’s what we did with my stepson, who was also the ring bearer, I’ll share our vows if you’re interested – he didn’t say anything, it was too much pressure for a 5 year old), or she could walk her dad to the altar, or something else… but it’s definitely the right thing to find a way to include her that feels meaningful to her.
Post # 7
If it were me…I wouldn’t ask. If you ask, then most likely your Fiance will pressure her into accepting and since she obviously is not into dresses and all that…it will probably end up being uncomfortable for her. I would however, have her escorted in like you would the parents and maybe get her a corsage.
Post # 8
She may not even want to be one. And I don’t think you have to ask her- especially if you are only having a Maid/Matron of Honor.