(Closed) His family isnt happy so I think it should be with mine

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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6 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I don’t know if this is true or if my Mum made it up, but she said that traditionally, weddings occur in the brides hometown, rather than the grooms, if they are from diffrerent places.

My oppinion: If the grooms family is only going to be negative, I think go somewhere where the people attending the wedding are at least going to be happy for you, and the sourpusses can take a back seat.

 

Post # 3
Member
6 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I don’t know if this is true or if my Mum made it up, but she said that traditionally, weddings occur in the brides hometown, rather than the grooms, if they are from diffrerent places.

My oppinion: If the grooms family is only going to be negative, I think go somewhere where the people attending the wedding are at least going to be happy for you, and the sourpusses can take a back seat.

 

Post # 4
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823 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think if your fiance’s family is going to be negative and unsupportive, you should definitely have it at home. Let your family celebrate your union the way it should be. Plus, if you do it at home it will probably be a lot easier to plan and find recommended vendors. Let his family buy the plane tickets if it is important to them in the end. 

Post # 5
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4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

More improtant question – what does your Fiance think? How have the conversations you two have had about this go, assuming that you have discussed it?

Post # 6
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5766 posts
Bee Keeper

It’s always been traditional to have the wedding in the bride’s hometown, so she didn’t make it up. Many people these days move far from their homes, so may choose to have their weddings where they now live or find some kind of compromise location split between the two.

In your case, it makes sense to do it where your family is living.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I believe the bride and her brides family choose where the wedding takes place.. since they are usually the ones customary to pay for it. Have your wedding where you want, if your fiances family is unsupportive you know you can rely on your family for reassurance 🙂

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I also think it is customary to have the wedding where the bride and brides family is since they are usually paying for it, but I think if you guys are paying for it then you should decide. Have you spoked to your Fiance about all this? What does he think? That said I would definitely hold the wedding where the people who are going to be excited and support you are! Who wants to have a wedding full of people who don’t like you or are unhappy about your engagement?

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