Post # 17
If I were a guest at a wedding, I honestly wouldn’t even notice the fullness of the sides – I’d be looking up at the bride and groom, not looking around 🙂
Besides, even if one side were noticeably smaller, I definitely wouldn’t attribute it to being “unlikeable” – I’d just think you had a smaller family to begin with. I don’t think anyone would really ask you about it, they’re all just going to be excited about the wedding!
Post # 18
Same here! I have all of two family members. TWO. One may not make it.
Your friends are your family!
Post # 19
I am sure that nobody pays attention and really they have no clue and will not remember =)
Post # 20
It’s going to be the same for me…his family is really close, and mine isn’t at all. We’re having the ushers scatter people throughout, and we’re doing doing an extremely brief greeting with everyone so I don’t get overwhelmed and have to chat it up with 250 people I barely know.
Post # 21
we won’t have designated sides bacause we have mutual friends and also we live in my hometown and I have a handful of relatives out of state who have travelled for all family events so I’d expect they’ll all come whereas his family lives around the world and very few will make it probably for visa reasons alone.
I wouldn’t worry – people don’t put much thought into it usually. Some families are simply very tiny.
Post # 22
Our wedding will be a lot like your’s. With exception to my mom, dad, and brother, every other family member is back in the Philippines. So yes, FI’s family will take up a huge part of the guestlist.
At the ceremony, we plan to reserve a row or two on each side for our family and close family friends. After those rows, it’ll be a free for all. I was worried about it too but in speaking with one of our vendors, I was told this is something that is seen more and more in weddings.
Cheer up, I know it sucks not having most of your family there. It’ll be ok.
Post # 23
oh thats ok
my fiance is the same he only has 7 guests all travelling from england and australia
so the families will be on our own sides wile the rest will be evenly distributed
it doesnt matter whats important is you will be happy and its your wedding day
cheer up, bee!
Post # 24
Cheer up! I know it’s hard, but I’m sure no one is going to think less of you just because some people can’t make it. My Future Mother-In-Law is one of nine kids, and our combined families make up 120 or our 168 invited guests! It’s a little annoying cost-wise, but it’s going to be a really lively reception. Have you met a lot of his family? If you haven’t I’m sure you’ll be the belle of the ball- you’re the bride! You’ll be so darn cute they’ll have to like you! 😉