Post # 1
My husband and I got married last year at a very small courthouse ceremony followed by dinner, only my mom and his best friend and wife were there.
So, since im peruvian. I started planning our catholic wedding in Peru. At first he said not a lot of his friends were going to be able to make it, but his family and a couple friends would go. I thought that was going to be ok.
Our wedding has about 100 guests. ALL the guests are MY FRIENDS AND FAMILY, his family said theyre not attending, he’s always had some issues with his mom and he never talks to her and some family issues with his dad since they didnt live together for a very long time, also his dad is been divorced like 2 times and apparently his getting divorced of his new wife.
Apparently none of his friends can afford to travel to Peru either.Our wedding is in 5 months and I dont know what to do. Im very sad and I have thought on cancelling. He said that the day is about us and i shouldnt cancel because all he cares is me, he is a very sweet and loving man and our marriage is the most important thing in my life. But i really dont know if i should cancel everything now.. I dont want him to feel left out.
Post # 3
Don’t cancel! 🙂 have your wedding obviously your hubby ls all on board for this wedding even if his family can’t come sorry they can’t make it but this is about you guys!
Post # 4
Don’t cancel. Maybe you can throw something back home with his friends to celebrate?
Post # 5
Although it’s too bad that his family can’t come I don’t think you should cancel! It sounds like there are still a lot of people who are excited and willing to share your special day!
Post # 6
I don’t think you need to cancel your ceremony in Peru– it sounds like there are lots of very legitimate reasons for his friends/family not coming, and it sounds to me like it might actually be a more comfortable affair if they are not there, especially if he has an uneasy relationship with his parents. It’s too bad his friends can’t come, but if your husband is OK with things that way, then I say go ahead!
Post # 7
Don’t cancel. I think in this case having a at home reception for his friends and family to come celebrate your marraige would be a good idea. It doesn’t have to be fancy and an be a simple dinner or bbq
Post # 8
@ginibri: I am so sorry. My family (mom and two sisters) cannot make a 3 hour plane ride to my wedding. They all have a reason why they cannot go. So I totally understand what he feels.
My family drags with them so much drama that it’s probably going to be better if they cannot go. It will be super sad, and I will feel like such a reject, but do not cancel, if you want your convalidation in the Peruvian church. I doubt there is a scenario that will work for everyone anyway!
Post # 9
Don’t cancel. I’m having a small-moderate size wedding (80 guests) and not one of them are my fiancés family. He is from Egypt, and the wedding is in Canada. It’s just a geographic reality that they can’t make it.
Keep getting excited for your special day. All the best!
Post # 10
@ginibri: Thank you so much for your comments and reaplies, you guys really cheer me up a lot i was very sad about this. I wish all of you have wonderful weddings and very happy marriages!