Post # 17
His parents are an hour and a half drive away while my parents are a 4 hour super expensive flight away. It is looking like holidays might be spent with his family. It is too expensive to travel to my home for the holidays. I have flown home every year since I moved away but it was a lot cheaper because I was flying out of Los Angeles. Now we are at a smaller airport and have to multiply the costs by two. It kind of makes me sad because this is the first Christmas I won’t be with my family. Hopefully down the line this changes. I would want to do every other year. Thanksgiving with his, Christmas with mine then swap it the next year.
Post # 18
I’m asking this because my husband and I argued about it last night. Last year we went to his family, which is 3 1/2 hours away from us, Wednesday night and stayed there ate lunch with his family and then drove to my family 1 1/2 hours away and had dinner and shopped with my sister for Black Friday. Well this year since we just got married I thought we could all do Thanksgiving together. His mother didn’t say it was a for sure thing but she made me feel like it would happen. She was even excited about going shopping with us. His Dad and brother were going to go home after dinner and then after we got done shopping we were going to go to his family’s house and stay the weekend. Well last night his mother calls and says that they will not be coming to do Thanksgiving with my family. So he wants it to go back to how it was last year… well problem with that is last year we were late to my family dinner and my sister’s husband is the store manager for the Walmart and has to be at work later on Thanksgiving day because of all the sales so I am just not wanting to do it again that way this year. On Christmas, his family likes to do their Christmas on Christmas Eve.. they go to church and then do gifts that night and then the next morning his nephew opens some presents and then we go to my family afterwards. I have a 5 year old niece who I am extremely close to and I use to get to see her open her presents but I have sacrificed that because I know he wants to see his family. Am I being difficult… Ugh!
Post # 19
Thankfully our families are only 2.5 hours apart, so it is very do-able for us to make both sides! Thanksgiving I think we will do lunch with his family and then drive down to meet up with my family.
His Dad is a pastor, so he is busy working on Christmas Eve and Christmas day, so last year we spent that time with my family and did Christmas with his family the next day. It worked out really well for us.
Post # 20
- Wedding: May 2012 - Monte Verde Inn
Wow this post could not have come at a more perfect time! We all live in the same town so it gets difficult. For a long time we split the day, but that started to be a little too much. So this year we are finally going to start switching off thanksgiving with each family. Seems like the only sane way. But it is SO difficult to do that because we both want to spend time with both our families. It’s a tough one for sure.
Post # 21
T-Day with his family, Saturday after with mine. My immediate family Christmas on a non-designated-Christmas day (usually before), Christmas Eve with his family, alternate Christmas Day every other year with his and mine.
Post # 22
I almost feel like both families being close makes it harder, though, because both families expect you to spend time with them, and it gets really stretched. I know there’s been hurt feelings (mostly my sister), and I almost wish they lived far away from each other! Argh
Post # 23
On Thanksgiving we are going to my husband’s mom’s house until 4 oclock then heading to my parent’s house until late that night.
Christmas we will spend Christmas eve with my parents then Christmas day with his.
Post # 24
Right now we spend Thanksgiving with my family, because they’re within driving distance. Then, we’ll spend Christmas with his family and celebrate Christmas over New Years with my family.
While I’d love to have both of our families close by, I’m actually really glad we don’t have to try to split the actual holiday between both – it sounds exhausting.
Post # 25
- Wedding: May 2012 - Monte Verde Inn
@MCC919: I completely agree. It makes it difficult because you have the ease and availability of seeing everyone, but splitting your day in half doesnt do much justice to each family and it is difficult to do. The best option is switching off every year, but its hard to not see your family. Its a tough thing that we all just have to get use to I guess.
Post # 26
Our families are in the same town. We see both of them on holidays. I wish they would come here (we are at the beach!) but no…
Post # 27
@MCC919: Same here. DH’s mom gets upset if we’re even late! Thankfully my mom has always been REALLY flexible and pretty much said if she had to do Thanksgiving BREAKFAST she would. lol
This year with them changing their time I’m stressed again about fitting everything. =/
Post # 28
My Fiance and I go to my families for every holiday. His grandmother comes to his moms on the holidays and he is not a fan of his grandmother at all. I however like to go to his moms and his dads on a day near each holiday (after his grandmother is gone) just to see them and hang out. =)
Post # 29
Our families are all an hour and half from us, just in different directions, which makes it hard to see everyone. We both have divorced families, so we have around 5 Christmases each year. Every year it gets harder and harder to juggle, but I refuse to not see my family for the holidays.
This year for Thanksgiving we are not leaving our house. My 9 year old and I are planning a big meal to make together (I use to do the turkey for one our big family get together and I love passing down the tradiiton of baking ot her). And whoever wants to come or stop by rom either family is welcome to.
We know 3 of our 5 dates already and thankfuly only one of them is one Christmas weekend so far. DH mom just picks a date and time (which is rediculous in its self. She has 2 kids and doesn’t even talk to DH about what our plans are. She usually picks the day of or eve and plants her meal in the middle of the day so we have no option of seeing anybody else) and we have decided that if she continues to do this and we have other things going on that day we won’t go.
Post # 30
For the past couple years we go to his families for thanksgiving, his grandma, aunts, uncles and cousins, they live 6 hrs away, but we always do an early thanksgiving dinner before we leave, here with my family. Then Christmas is with both immediate families that live close, his parents and mine. Usually Christmas eve at my moms, Christmas morning at his moms then whoever is doing the dinner that year.
Post # 31
I’ve been bouncing around since i was 9. we just go one place for a couple hours then the other. easy peasy