(Closed) His family or yours for the holidays..

posted 9 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: Whos family for which holidays..

    Wifes family for Thanksgiving his for Christmas or vice versa

    Both with Wifes family or vices versa

    Both on all holidays....

  • Post # 32
    Member
    27 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    View original reply
    @MCC919:Its easy when the families are getting along with each other. My family does things earlier in the day and are usually ready to be done by 5 or 6 where his family doesn’t even start anything until 6 or 7 at night (mostly because of FIs sister) so when one is ready for us to be gone we just go to the other. But witht he divorce happening right now (like right this second) the holiday are going to suck because everyone is going tobe expected to choose sides (FIs mom is the type to disown if you don’t pick her over FIs dad, its just a mess). Last year it was so easy though.

    Post # 33
    Member
    5654 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2011

    View original reply
    @Pickles-Bee: We split between FOUR families since both DH & my parents are divorced. Thankfully we have my mom in the bunch who is pretty laid back about it all and we don’t have 4 parents all like MIL! eek! lol

    Post # 34
    Member
    27 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    View original reply
    @runsyellowlites:I would be the same way with 4 due to divorces but my fathers side of the family kindof dropped us when my parents got divorces so I don’t need to worry about them. I know I was lucky to only have two there for awhile.

    Post # 35
    Member
    4801 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We are very lucky that his parents like to celebrate on Christmas Eve and mine like to celebrate on Christmas day, and both live within an hour of our house. For other holidays we alternate – one year we’ll have thanksgiving with my family and easter at his, the next year thanksgiving with his family and easter with mine.

    We might be making an exception this year though…I just found out my grandma has cancer and I will not have the opportunity to see her until thanksgiving (she is out of the state), and it is supposed to be his family’s year for it…luckily he is super understanding about it.

    Post # 36
    Member
    2626 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    His fam for Thanksgiving and mine for Christmas, then we’ll switch next year.

    Post # 37
    Member
    843 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    We normally do one at one set of parents and the other and the other.  This year, however, we couldn’t make it to my parent’s for Thanksgiving (they live across the country) so we’re doing Thanksgiving just the two of us!

    For Christmas we’re going to visit his parents AND my parents are coming down to join us so we’ll have everyone together for our first married Christmas!  I’m really happy about that!

    Post # 38
    Member
    2818 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    We will be spending it with my family since my FI’s family live in a different state.

    Post # 39
    Member
    1243 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    We switch off (one year we go to his parents for Thanksgiving and go to mine for Christmas.  The next year is reversed).  This year we are going to my family’s for Christmas.  The families live about 5 hours apart, so we can’t split days and no one wants to spend Christmas in the car.

    I find it difficult to spend Christmas away from my family…it doesn’t help that other then the fact that there’s a tree and people are actually celebrating Christmas, our traditions couldn’t be more different.  That part I find really difficult.

    Post # 40
    Member
    365 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    We don’t have thanks giving, so I didn’t vote in the poll. We did his family Christmas day last year, and are doing mine this year, so he gets to pick what we do for NYE. I think he would rather spend the day just us two, but I definately rather be with family (mine or his).

    Post # 41
    Member
    7691 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Thanksgiving with his family, Christmas with mine. This is how we’ve done it for the past 3 years (since getting engaged) don’t know if it will always stay this way though!

    Post # 42
    Member
    6995 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    such a difficult decision to make! luckily his parents are an hour away and mine are 15 minutes. I think we will do thanksgiving at my parents house then go down to his parents house friday or saturday and do a bonfire with the college kids that will be home.

    Christmas eve we will go to his parents house, spend the night, go to church and open gifts in the monring (they still have some little ones so its more exciting that way) then head to my parents for christmas dinner.

     

    Post # 43
    Member
    1902 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    We don’t have thanksgiving here, we try and see one set of parents on Christmas day, the other on Boxing day the day after then alternate the next year 🙂

    Post # 44
    Member
    1941 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    We live in CA, so does his entire family. My entire family lives in FL. I work retail, and at my job, our blackout period for time off is 10/15 – 1/05 or something like that. So I/we go visit my family mid/late January, but do Thanksgiving and Christmas with his.

    I like it better that way, anyways 🙂

    Post # 45
    Member
    1243 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    View original reply
    @spaneshal:  A lot of our decision to switch years was due to my affinity for Boxing Day.  I HATE how it’s turned so commerical in North America.  In Canada, we recently started opening malls and stores on the 26th of December and I’m so not a fan. I’m not sure what you do in the UK (didn’t it start as sort of a Twelfth Night thing in the army with role reversals?), but I insist on wearing pjs for most of the day and eating enormous turkey sandwiches.  I call it the “Holy” Day of Boxing Day.  It’s a day to relax (unless my parents have signed the family up for a curling tournement) and play with your toys.  🙂

    The topic ‘His family or yours for the holidays..’ is closed to new replies.

    Find Amazing Vendors