(Closed) His friends crashing honeymoon?!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I think you need to talk to your husband and agree that those last 3 nights will be just for the 2 of you. See how he feels, he might agree with you and you don’t need to worry about it!

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Can’t you just attempt to not see them while they’re there the extra days? I’m sure they’ll understand that you don’t want to hang out while you’re on your honeymoon!

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

you can’t very well dictate to people when they can and cannot come to your Destination Wedding.  Maybe you guys should switch resorts for the honeymoon to avoid guests.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Im kind of in the same boat. My Fiance is inviting people to come with us! See we’re going to Disney World in FL and its usually more fun with groups. It kind of sucks that hes inviting all these people to our honeymoon, but luckily, I honestly dont beleive anyone will have the money to go with us!!!!!

I guess we’ll see. 

I dont have any advice, but wanted to let you know that your not alone in this kind of situation. 🙂

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

They probably do not know that the last three days are your honeymoon. I certainly would not think that if I was going to your wedding.  I would bring this up to your fiance and then have him talk to them. If they are good friends they will try to avoid you those last three date or change the dates they are attending. You also have to remember that your guests are using  valuable vacation time to attend your wedding—so you have to remember this is their vacation too.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think it would bother me, but I think this is one of those things that happens with Destination Weddings.  The only thing I can think of is make sure to schedule some excursions or something alone.  Maybe your Fiance can say to your friends (even as a joke) “don’t be surprised if you don’t see us very much over the last 3 days, we’re on our honeymoon afterall” and then find a nice spot on the beach somewhere and make yourself scarce…

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Unfortunately, that is the risk you take with a destination wedding. I’ve heard of this happening a lot. Just make sure you designate time for you and your Fiance. I don’t think it is that big of a deal…it’s not like they are staying in your hotel room with you two. Just do your own thing!

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Just because they are staying longer I don’t see why this should affect your time together? I would just have your hubby say he’s glad they could make it work but that you are planning on spending some time together as a honeymoon.

Maybe you could see them a bit during the day at the beach/pool. but reserve your afternoons and evenings for the two of you?

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2006

We had this same issue with our Destination Wedding. In the end, we spent the four days after the wedding in Vegas with the guests and ended up going to Palm Desert a few weeks later to get some true alone time. However, I’m sure they will be respectful and I’m sure your new husband will be more than happy to spend his time alone with you.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Is there a way that you can switch rooms after the wedding to a more remote part of the resort? Or just talk to your Fiance and let him know that you don’t care if they stay, but he needs to remember that it is your honeymoon, not an extended boy’s weekend.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Talk to your fiance about having some “you time” those last three days, but if they want to get together for dinner or an outing, do it!  You guys are going to be together for the rest of your lives and will have lots of opportunities to be alone – enjoy the people around you as well as each other!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@Atalanta: Bingo. It’s your wedding, but it’s their vacation. If they want to stay longer, they can. Just very gently explain to them that you two will be out and about alone.

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Huge part of the reason I decided against my dream Disney World wedding – because it is totally bridezilla to tell people they can’t stay after the wedding when you’re on your honeymoon, and I wanted to be alone for it. They’ve already spent a ton of $$ on airfare, hotel, etc., so it makes sense that they’d want to make a vacay out of it, and there’s nothing you can do about it if they decide after the wedding, during your honeymoon, is the best time for that.

Of course, that doesn’t mean you have to hang out with them – I’m sure your Fiance will understand that you want to spend your honeymoon as a couple and not hanging out with friends. But running into people is going to be inevitable. There is no way to handle it or change it, that’s just one of the things you have to accept when you’re having a destination wedding.

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