(Closed) his friends’ ring envy? or just concern?

posted 11 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2166 posts
Buzzing bee

I totally am getting a jealous vibe from this story (them of you).  Did you know these girls before?

Post # 4
5165 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I really wouldnt worry about this. You dont know what they were thinking, maybe they were jealous or maybe they dont care about your ring.. Eitherway I dont think you should lose sleep over what they might be thinking

Post # 6
2906 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

ahh girls will be girls. sorry they made you feel left out and not caring of your special day.. bc it should be a fun time. I think they are jelly!!! Thts what it sounds like at least.

Post # 7
692 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

What a bummer!  But I wouldn’t sweat it.  Fiance and I got engaged after two years, and we have many friends that have been dating just as long if not longer, but are nowhere near engaged.  I always try to be respectful of their relationships and not act like the ring on my finger makes mine more legitimate, but people still act weird occasionally.  It’s just jealousy, nothing about you.  I would just hang out with people who aren’t like that, since it sounds like most of the people in your fiance’s life are really happy for you!

Post # 8
1374 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@smileypeaches1: Boo !! that is so unfortunate ..  keep your head held high – you have a great relationship and delicious sparkle . I am sure they will warm up eventually … and if not – their loss. 

Post # 9
41 posts

They sound like a couple of self-centered, little girls.  Oh, and maybe a tad bit jealous, seeing that they did not bother to mention your ring.  May you & your Fiance have many wonderful years together.  Your fellow bees look forward to oohing and aahing over your ering-congrats! 

Post # 10
802 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

They do just sound straight-up jealous.  I’m sorry they acted so petty! ๐Ÿ™


Now that you’re on a board full of supportive girls… maybe posting a picture of your ring and getting compliments now might lift your spirits! ๐Ÿ˜‰ 

Post # 11
127 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@smileypeaches1: lady DO I EVER KNOW what you are talking about!!! My ring also went into above $10,000 bracket and I got NASTY reactions. Not that they know how much these rings cost but its very obvious when you are wearing one of these pretty sparkly rings that they were a pretty penny. I heard the same thing from co-workers and acquantences that they would never want something “SO BIG”

My fiance gets concerned because he thinks it makes us look like we have money when in reality I said I rather have an amazing ring over the $35,000 wedding, not that we have money – cause we dont.

Flash that pretty thing all over WeddingBee so WE can be excited for you.

All girls want to show off their rings – big or small!


Post # 12
3628 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Yes show us your ring! we will ohhh and ahhhh over it happily! ๐Ÿ™‚

I also got some wierd reactions over my ring from other women…a relative of mine actually put her ring next to mine so we could see whose was nicer….AWKWARD.


Post # 13
74 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Aw thats rubbish. I can relate, I’ve got some wierd vibes from other newly engaged people about my ring (both girls with bigger and smaller stones). To be honest, I think people are so focused on themselves sometimes they forget to say nice things.

I’ve kicked myself a couple of times because I’ve forgotton to gush at the right moment because I’ve been distracted and then released later what I’d done and tried my best to do a delayed gush.

This does sound like these girls are jealous and instead of being happy for you, they are focusing on themselves. It happens, consider yourself the better person and post your ring on here so we can all see!!


Post # 15
160 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I’m in a situation that is slightly different than yours but has basically the same story, I won’t get into it now but I do know exactly how you feel and honestly their wedding is coming up in September and ours in November and we’ve all been engaged for almost a year now and I still feel akward around them, even though I have always been polite and put their wedding and everything first (like you said regarding the 2 girls getting engaged and talking about their wedding) and I only speak of my wedding when asked. But the one girl has said some pretty mean things to me regarding my wedding even implying that she doesn’t feel that people in my and fi’s situation should be getting married but didn’t come out and say us ( she feels that people that have been together longer like her and her fi are the only ones that should be getting married) and that also since my wedding is after hers its unfair for me to invite the same guests ( fi and her fi have been best friends forever and will be sharing a lot of similar guests on the list and also groomsmen) because that is more money they have to shell out for another wedding, I guess when she said that she was hoping I would back mine up even more. Guess thats why she picked 2 weeks after the date fi and I originally had wanted for our wedding as her wedding date and thats why we moved back to November. All I have to say is girls are ridiculous! Be proud of your wedding and your ring and your fi. When I get down about it I just remember how lucky I am and how lucky fi and I are as a couple for having each other and a wonderful wedding coming up. Good luck!

Post # 16
220 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

You know, it could be several things. As someone who was with my fiance for seven years before we got engaged, sometimes it actually physically *hurt* when people who had not been together as long got engaged. It made me question everything about us all over again, and perhaps they are remembering a similar feeling when they see you and your fiance all happy and excited. Now, that’s no reason to act snotty toward you, but they may not be gracious enough to gush.

Another possibility is that they feel like their engagements are anti-climactic after such a long time of dating, and they are dealing with it in an immature way by gushing over each other and not over you, figuring you’ll get plenty of excited talk from others.

Maybe they felt as though your ring was so fancy that you might get a swollen head if they mentioned it, or that it would detract from their own in some fashion ๐Ÿ˜‰

Whatever their problem is, it’s not you!! We support your engagement and you are always welcome to talk about wedding stuff to us Bees. We’ll be excited for you (and about your beautiful e-ring, too!).


@Evie19: That is super awkward!! I don’t know how I’d deal with that. I’m glad my ring is atypical ๐Ÿ™‚

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