- Miss Apricot
- 9 years ago
- Wedding: May 2009
I do some gaming, and so does my hubby. He’s always been into more than I have, (he used to go to LAN parties before we met and when we first started dating). My brother was also a huge gamer. He killed himself in 2007, and my mom thinks the gaming contributed to his depression. The fact that several of his gaming friends came to his funeral make me believe that having that support system, even if online, actually prolonged his life. But I guess none of us really know for sure.
Anyway, I just wanted to say that you do need to come to an agreement and STICK TO IT. Yes, it is an escape, and it can be a great way to wind down after a stressful day. You say he is trying to cram it in before he goes to the police academy? I think if anything, the Police Academy and later, his policework, will make him retreat MORE into the game if you don’t set boundries now, (hello, stressful job!). Find other ways for him to wind down…go for a walk together, watch a movie together on the couch. You aren’t his mother, but he does need to realize that what he’s doing isn’t healthy for him OR your relationship.
Also, maybe you could try gaming, too. I am not a fan of shooter games like Call of Duty or Socom, but I like Fantasy games like Fable 3 and World of Warcraft. I don’t advise playing WoW unless he already does it, because you could BOTH very-well become addicted. lol! But a game like Fable 3 is easy to play, can be played alone or together, and it’s easier to walk away from for a few days or a week. So, maybe Sunday could be his night to stay up late gaming, and Thursday could be your night to game together.