Post # 1
Member
3942 posts
Honey bee
We made a very, very rough draft of the guest list last night. We agreed to keep it to family and very close friends. He has 46 people…and that is only family!!
I have 2 family memebers (my mom and brother) and a handful of close friends so a grand total of 13 people.
I am so excited to be marrying into a big family, and they are such great people. But I cant help feeling a little sad that I only have 13 people that I really want to be there :/
Post # 3
Member
5653 posts
Bee Keeper
Haha, I am totally the same way! My guest list was about 15 people (including my whole family, my best friends and my singing teacher whom I am very close to) and his list came to 50 for JUST family, and then another 20 for all his friends, then his parents added another 20 people or so.
It bummed me out a bit at first, especially since I wanted a small wedding (like, 50-60 people), but that just isn’t possible. It kinda sucked that it wasn’t even my guests that made that not possible lol, but what can you do? I’ve warmed up to having a bigegr wedding and I don’t mind anymore that most of them are not the people I invited, they’ll become closer friends, hopefully!
Post # 4
Member
560 posts
Busy bee
Oh I am the same way! My Fiance immediate family, well to him Immeditate is 100, so that parents, grandparents, aunts uncles and first cousins only! Me? 35….yeaaa but then all today with friends included we are inviting 200 roughy. So litterally 1/2 of our guests will be his close family!
Post # 5
Member
572 posts
Busy bee
Don’t feel bad, I was in the same situation. His guestlist was proportionately much larger than mine. But in the end it does not matter. You are now part of his family and he yours. I’ve never had mnay friends in life and so there were not many to invite and I have a small family. As long as you have everyone you want there, that is what is important.
Remember to focus on the big picture. 🙂
Post # 6
Member
1501 posts
Bumble bee
Our situation is opposite. I have a lot of family. My list with parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles & first cousins and four friends is about 90. He has about 60 people on his list and quite a few of those are close friends. Oh and I even didn’t invite a bunch of cousins because I don’t really know them.
He was bummed about this and then even mored bummed because probably a whole bunch of his family won’t come because they aren’t that close.
Post # 7
Member
3942 posts
Honey bee
Thanks ladies. I had an emotional breakdown looking at the lists side by side last night. I couldnt help feeling a little pathetic.
Post # 8
Member
7298 posts
Busy Beekeeper
@Bostongrl25: Don’t feel bad. It’s just the way it is. Mr. Tattoo’s guest list is like 25 and mine is 200. My mom and dad both have large families. We aren’t having sides. He can’t help it that he has a small family though so he doesn’t even feel bad about it. You shouldn’t feel bad either. 🙂
Post # 9
Member
1474 posts
Bumble bee
Our list is pretty lopsided, too. It’s not pathetic. Families are all completely different, and you’ll probably be having so much fun on the wedding day that you’ll hardly notice the difference in numbers!
<3
Post # 10
Member
13094 posts
Honey Beekeeper
Our list was a bit lopsided too (but in my favor). I just have a larger family than he does! Nothing to feel bad or pathetic about though.
Post # 11
Member
3866 posts
Honey bee
Same thing, here. He’s got more family (that he actually gets along with, lol) than I do. However, the friends are mutual, but mostly ones he’s introduced me to!
But, that’s okay because I’ve besties with one (who is my MOH!) and others are always asking how I am (one insisted on talking to me on the phone one time, lol) and the others love me, too. So, it’s not so much *his* friends, as *our* friends. 🙂
Our guest list is around 200 total and, thankfully, the majority is friends. We figure at least half his family won’t come, so our end-tally should be around 150 or so (we hope!).
Post # 12
Member
2550 posts
Sugar bee
I’m the opposite. We’re only having 50ppl and half of my 25 is just my family. I told my parents that they should’ve stopped @ 2.