Post # 1
My fiance is inviting about 60 people to the wedding (large family, outgoing with lots of friends, happy coworkers). I am only having about 25 (small family, lived out of the area for alot of years and I’m a little quiter so I only have a few close friends, and my coworkers are not happy together so I leaving them all out…the all or none rule) I feel awkward ( that may not be the right word) about being so outnumbered. We first agreed to have only our very closetest people at the wedding (easier for me than him) but he just can’t keep a lid on the list. He’s so happy that I can’t say no to him but I feel odd about it. Really I wanted it just to be us and our Mothers, very intimate, that’s my style…However, I can live with his bigger guest list, but does anyone else feel this way?
Post # 3
My Fiance has a huge family, while I only have my parents and a brother for family coming to the wedding, so I feel you on this one! It doesn’t bother me as much as it bothers my mom. She wishes her parents and my dad’s parents were still alive to share in the day. She’s also all worried that “our side” of the church will look so sad compared to FI’s side, lol. I told her, there’s no way we’re doing bride’s side vs. groom’s side at the church!
If you’re uncomfortable with the size of his guest list, maybe you could tell him how the difference in numbers is making you feel. Maybe he could trim his list down just a little?
Post # 4
Aww. I was the opposite. I have a large family. Hubby only had a few tables at the wedding.
I can see how you’d want it to be small, since you’re indicating being a little more shy or introverted. But since your FI is excited to have his family there, I think you are doing the right thing.
I agree with Blueshoes about trying to even out the church (etc) to keep from looking so lopsided. But I think so much will be happening that day, that it will be so wonderful regardless of who’s on whose side.
Post # 5
Our wedding is the opposite as I’m the outgoing, bubbly one with a large family. Some things that we are doing to make it not feel akward: no bride-groom side for the ceremony and inviting everyone who can make it to our BBQ rehearsal dinner Friday evening.
Post # 6
I’m in your boat, he has tons of people & I have few. My style is keep it family & close friends but he has a lot of good friends. Its just not fair. My only advice is talk to him about the maximum number of people & don’t go over. Otherwise, the list will climb so fast!
Post # 7
I am in the same situation too- I have about 15 people on my side if they all show up, and my fiance has about 45-50 coming…good thing there isn’t really sides to sit on where we get married…it’s not big enough to make sections for families lol