Post # 1
So I haven’t been dress shopping yet but I’ve been looking online and trying to get an idea of what I like and don’t like. I know that I have to try different styles on to see what flatters my body and what doesn’t but I always find myself swooning over fit and flare and mermaid styles with lots of ruffles.
The other night we were watching a little t.v. in bed and I casually pulled up a website with lots of different styles of dresses. I asked him what he thought of different ones. The very first thing he did was point to the mermaids and say how stupid they looked. <insert broken heart here> I guess my dissapointment must have been obvious on my face because he tried so very hard to recover by telling me that the most important thing was how I felt in the the dress and what I thought looked the best on me. I appreciate that he said that and I know he’s sincere but the damage has been done. When I walk down the aisle, I want to him to think that I’m beautiful not think “oh geez…she’s wearing one of those stupid looking dresses.”
Anyone else have a similar experience? What did you do? Wear the style that you loved and try to find one that suited your guy’s taste instead?
Post # 3
Don’t take it too much to heart! When I modeled my dress for Darling Husband, the first thing out of his mouth was, “Don’t you think it adds a little weight around your hips?” OUCH, lol. But on the day of our reception (when I wore it), he told me how beautiful I looked. The point is, many guys just say whatever pops into their heads without really thinking about it. He will think you’re beautiful on your wedding day, no matter what.
Post # 4
My sister got a mermaid style and her Darling Husband wasn’t too keen on it on the model. When he saw it on her while she was walking down the aisle, he bawled. I mean, full out sobbed because she looked so gorgeous.
Guys also tend to have foot in mouth disease, so I wouldn’t take it too much to heart. Pick out a dress that you feel gorgeous in, and he will love it!
Post # 5
I got lucky and Fiance liked the ballgown dress style I want but honestly when he sees you in the dress all done up and gorgeous, what style your dress is I think will be the last thing in his head!
Post # 6
I showed my Fiance a picture of the dress I liked best and his reaction was “REALLY?” He didn’t like the fact that it was tea length and kind of poofy. Later, we were at another wedding where a bride wore a short dress and afterward he told me that he’d changed his mind and that my dress didn’t have to be long. A while later, we went dress shopping and he ended up really liking the dress. Long story short, I bought that dress.
My point is that guys don’t always know what they’ll like. They certainly don’t know what will look good on you. On your wedding day, he won’t be thinking about what kind of dress you’re wearing; he’ll be thinking about how amazing you look.
Post # 7
We see all the time on this website how much different – and more beautiful! – us real human beings look in the dresses compared to the models. Buy the dress you love no matter what; YOU make the dress, not the other way around. 🙂
Post # 8
When we were first engaged, I mamaged to convince FH to watch a lot of “Say Yes to the Dress”.
I listened carefully to what he had to say, and was definitely a little crushed when he admitted his hatred of ruching, because the dresses I had been admiring online at were all ruched. He also hated pickups, but I wasn’t hot on them either.
To my surprise, he loved the lace gowns, and both of us prefer the mermaid/trumpet silhouette.
So when I finally did go dress shopping 4 months after he proposed, the dress I chose was based on what we both liked in dresses… and looks BETTER on me than what I would have picked without his indirect input.
Post # 9
Fiance wanted something form fitting… I wanted a ballgown. I ended up with allure 8771 ..( see my photos here .) He told me just like your Fiance told you that he would be happy as long as I was happy in the end… and I guess I asked for it by asking what his style preferences were. In the end… he’ll love you in no matter what. My Fiance said I can get a bigger gown as long as he can stand beside me on our wedding day without too much dress getting in our way. 🙂
Post # 10
I wouldn’t waste any time worrying about that conversation with your Fiance – the pictures online are nothing like what he’ll see when you’re walking down the aisle. Seriously, so many girls have reiterated that on the site here – they knew their Fiance didn’t like whatever style they bought but the Fiance was absolutely blown away on the wedding day. Don’t worry about it and pick a dress that you love and feel beautiful in!
Post # 11
Eh, we both thought the picture of the model in my dress was hideous. I love the dress, though! I think he’ll love what you pick–unless he hates your personal style in general, which I doubt. My Fiance always hates any dress that I pick out at all…until I put it on. 😉
Post # 12
I tried showing my Fiance some pictures of the kinds of dresses I liked and he hated them. He much prefers something plain and simple while I wanted a little more than that. Tough cookies! 🙂 I bought a dress I loved. I know he’ll like it no matter what, and he’s told me so. Dresses look much better in real life and on real women than they do in pictures and on models! I’m sure your Fiance will love whatever you pick!
Post # 13
Thanks, everyone for your encouragement. I’m new here so I didn’t realize there were already some posts on this same topic. Sorry! But I do appreciate what everyone has said. I’m sure you’re all right and the shape of my dress will probably be the last thing on his mind that day! Besides, once I go try on dresses I may end up hating that silohette on myself!
@Mrs.H2B Your dress is beautiful!
@IvoryButtons I’ve already loaded SYTTD on netflix and made him start watching for the same reason!
Post # 14
My Fiance helped me pick out my dress and we both loved it, no compromise needed. =)
Post # 15
Lol…how cute is your FI! At least he tried to rectify his comment to make you feel better 🙂
If it makes you feel any better noone likes my dress but me and my mum and now I’m starting to have doubts! I’m hoping it’s cos the online picture with the model in it looks bad!
Post # 16
Thats sweet your Fiance let you know that whatever you’d wear it would be great. 🙂 And you know what? Even though you feel he was saying that to make you feel better…it’s true!
My Fiance always points out really form fitted gowns but I got an A-line. I’m comfortable knowing that whatever I choose, he’d be happy. I believe the same goes for you!
He’s gonna see you that day and just melt!