(Closed) His indecisiveness!

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bumble bee

I’m a little confused about how the other people will be waiting for him since the guest list is closed….

“I’m so wanting to tell him he’d be wrong if he thinks people will wait for him as long as it takes to make up his mind!”

But no, it’s not mean to go out and have fun without him! That’s a good thing. If he wanted to go, he should have stepped up and figured it out.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

In that case, no I don’t think it’s mean to say anything. That being said, it’s probably unnecessary, unless he’s totally clueless that other people have a concept of time. lol

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

HAHAHAHA! That would be funny! “Oh.. wait. I wanted to be the groom.”

Well, I hope you have fun at the party!

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

I think you can find a nicer way to say it. Just be like people including me cant wait on your decisons forever. If you expect that then things like this will happen and you wont be able to attend things without notice. Then say I dont want you to stay at home, go out with your friends cant wait to see you later.

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

My husband is the same way. I now just go about my life, and if he snaps out of it in time to come along, awesome. If not, that’s a lesson for him. Me reminding him and nagging him about decisions and making plans got really old, and was wearing on our relationship. So, now we both do things on our own time frame, and just own our actions. If he misses out on a guest list, hey – free alone time for him! Free night out for me! Living in a one-bedroom apartment makes you relish whatever comes your way, space-wise 😉

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Organizedbride11, I know you’re right on what to say. That said, I do think w/the right person it could be very funny to say back, “I hope you don’t say Oh, wait, I wanted to be the groom 5 years from now when I’m marrying [insert favorite celebrity crush, sports figure, etc].”

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Tell him he can sit at home and wait if he wants but he should go out and have fun if he wants because that is what you’re going to do.  And EVEN IF you have a miserable time, don’t tell him.  You complaining about his indecisiveness won’t change his habits.  Him seeing that you can and will go out and have a good time without him might.

Now, my husband is a homebody and he supports me going out without him and I’m totally okay with it.  He prefers to stay at home and watch sports.  He goes with me occasionally but he and I both have an understanding.  That works for us.  Maybe your boyfriend is like my hubby.  He would really just rather stay home.  

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