Post # 1
Well we went to dinner at her house, and got to talking about our wedding. We mentioned the date Oct 27th 2012 and that it was outdoors. As soon as I said the date and the outdoor ceremony she went all crazy… “Oh, thats a terrible time of year to have it outdoors!” I deflated. Im so bummed now! I realize that its going to be chilly high 40’s-60’s But we will be letting people know on the invites it will be an outdoor ceremony. And in case of really bad weather we have a cabin (not the greatest) for the ceremony back up. She totally rained on my parade :/
AND…we also told her we are not wanting children to attend. I have 2 nephews and a niece that wont be there, but we mentioned this again to Future Mother-In-Law and she said “Well, Olivia (FI’s Niece) HAS to be there!” UMMM NO CRAZY LADY! I am the type of person that if someone doesnt like what I am doing I change the entire thing. Ugh! I NEED to snap out of it, but how?!
Thanks for listening! END VENT 🙂
Post # 3
Just ignore her – its your day not hers, so you can choose the when/what/why/where and how of every detail.
She will just have to grin and bear it for the sake of her son 🙂
Post # 4
@peachbaby4008: With a year to go to your wedding, there’s probably going to be plenty more of these. How about learning some assertiveness techniques, either from a book or off the internet?
Post # 5
I’ve had to deal with this & I have yet to say anything. I’ve still done what I’ve wanted.. I haven’t changed a thing just because she didn’t think it was a good idea. In the end, it’ll be the wedding WE wanted & not what SHE suggested.
I have a problem being stern with his mother.. Just because.. I don’t like akward situations. Really.. I’m waiting for my fiance to comfront her, not me!
Perhaps you could talk to your fiance about it?..
Post # 6
well I live in the north of England and even in summer it’s pretty cold but everyone here manages to have lovely weddings and you will too…even if it’s cold!!
Do what you want 🙂