(Closed) His Weekend Bachelor with girls!

posted 5 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 2
3056 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Can you host something for his female friends in Miami? 

Post # 3
10651 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

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atalibrandi :  

Yes, as pp says  maybe  along with your friends the night   they arrive . He says ‘making them stay in Miami’ but really it wouldn’t be ‘making them stay ‘anywhere,   they would be on holiday in a foreign (to them)   destination .

   I agree with you – for no really good reason, I’m  sure  it wil be totally innocent   –  but I would  be put  out too !

Post # 4
7440 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Since it is already co-ed, why can’t you go too and have a duel party? Those are quite popular now.

Post # 5
614 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

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atalibrandi :  Explain to him that a bachelor party is a gathering meant for the groom’s male friends. Not just a party where he invites everyone except for you. 

Post # 6
388 posts
Helper bee

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atalibrandi :  I know that if they’re friends or relatives there’s nothing to worry about, but I’d feel pissed off too if I’m not having my hen night, while everyone else is off partying. 

Why don’t you try to talk to him openly and tell him you feel left behind? If you can’t have your party, at least the girls should be on your side and keep you company. I’m sure there’s so many amazing places in Miami where you ladies can hang out, get to know each other and have a great time. 

Post # 7
825 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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atalibrandi :  You were ok with him having his bachelor party at this time, what difference does it make in terms of who is there? Maybe you feel left out because there will be girls at the party and it means technically you ould go too? Why don’t you, and have a combo pre-wedding party?

Post # 8
764 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

As PP said, co-bachelor/ette is a good idea! I was fine with Fiance having a bachelor party but he keeps insisting to do a joint one, so we are inviting our entire wedding party to Chicago for the weekend. But if you feel like doing a bachelor/ette is intruding, I would totally suggest to host something for the girls instead.

I think maybe you feel weird about it because strip clubs are nothing but physical “connections”, but spending an entire weekend with potentially single girls can present an opportunity to develop a physical and emotional connection.. especially with alcohol. I can handle my guy going to strip clubs and stuff, but totally agree, I don’t think I would be cool with a bunch of other girls going out with him. Maybe for a night.. not a whole weekend? Strippers only last a couple hours… but what are these girls doing, staying at the same hotel? Hanging out with your fiancé literally all weekend? Are some of them single? Idk maybe I’m overreacting here lol 😂 

Post # 9
9436 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Well, there are probably drunk girls around him either way. If he goes out to bars there will be girls there and some will likely be drunk.

My husband invited his female friend to his bachelor party. She stayed in the same hotel room as everyone else. I honestly didn’t care at all because I trust him. I really don’t see how this is a problem if you trust your fiancé.

Post # 10
2340 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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atalibrandi :  strictly from a practical perspective- are you willing/able to host the women in your home for the weekend if they stay behind in Miami? Or can your fiancé cover the cost of accommodations for the men in Key West? I would be very annoyed if my partner and I had to simultaneously pay for a hotel room in Miami & a hotel room in Key West (in addition to the cost of airfare from Europe.) I don’t know where everyone is planning to stay in Miami, but hotel rooms there can be $$$, so by splitting up the couples for the weekend and requiring the women to stay behind, you could be asking them to incur several hundred $$$ in additional costs when they’ve probably already spent thousands to attend your wedding. 

Post # 13
221 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I would feel weird as a female attending a Bachelor party. Sorry not much help. But just throwing it out there. 

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