- 8 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
Fiance and I believe have hit our first “rut” after being together for over 5 years.
We’re kind of in a bad cycle and it’s neither of our faults. I’ve had a rough month or so at work and a particularly bad 50 + hour work week the other week. I work overnights and don’t get nearly enough sleep (I also have a 5 year old) so when I was home with him in the evenings I was groggy and innattentive. He let me know he felt disconnected, accused me of changing, and I immediately felt horrible and this week I’ve been working hard to make him a priority again.
However, now this week I’m the one who feels disconnected. One of the nights we were home he turned me down for sex. Another day he didn’t return any of my texts. (Not a big deal, but when I didn’t do that the week before, it was a gripe to him)
I find myself getting very anxious and nervous. I know nothing is wrong with us, but I’m scared to hit a rut. I suggested trying to go away for the night tonight but he wants to stay home and watch the Patriots game. He insists everything is ok and he is happy now, but I just don’t want this cycle to continue.
I don’t really know what kind of advice I’m asking for….maybe just some support from Bees who have been through this and how you got out of it with your SO, Fiance, DH, etc.