Post # 1
I’ve gained back all my pre wedding weight that I lost (33lbs) plus I’ve added 10. I feel awful, I’m embarassed of myself and hate looking at myself in the mirror.
I’m so humiliated I don’t want to go out in public more than I have to and I’ve taken to wearing exercise pants daily because none of my clothes are fitting me. I’m embarassed to go to the gym and flop around there, I’m even embarassed to work out at home in case someone sees me! I can’t get outside becasue the weather is gross.
Anyone got some good motivational ideas/help I can try? Any diet boosters?
Post # 3
@Take The Reins: I’m sorry you’re struggling with this! First of all, there is no reason to be in embarassed. Your worth has nothing to do with the amount of gravity that pulls on you.
I’ve never been good at setting up a strict plan, but I have been trying to gradually make my lifestyle healthier.
1. Eat as much whole food as you can. I find that at least for us it’s much cheaper, and yummier, not to mention healthier. We started slowly, moving from chicken-centric meals to slightly less chicken, to wholy vegetarian. We’ve been doing this for about two years, and now we’re at a point where we don’t buy meat when we go grocery shopping (still eat it when we eat out) and we are completely happy with our food. The key for us was to do it a little at a time. Some weeks went better than others, and after bad weeks I went back to teriyaki chicken and that’s ok, it’s a process.
2. You have to start, and go a little at a time with exercise as well. I don’t really like working out for working out. I like to rock climb with my husband. I like to go to yoga so that I can relax and because it makes me feel awesome. I like to walk in the morning (at the gym at my husband’s company, at first I was embarassed because others were running and lifting weights, and I’m walking at 3 mph) to help me wake up. I would suggest finding things that you like to do, take your husband for support, and when you’re alone I’ve also found that listening to something helps me tune out other people and not be so self-conscious.
I’m not sure that this helped at all, but I hope it helps a little bit. Good luck, don’t give up, and let me know if there is anything else I might be able to help with!
Post # 4
@Take The Reins: I am in the same position as you. I lost 40 pounds 2 years ago. It’s almost all back on. I am so embarassed to go back to the gym, I am embarassed to see people I haven’t seen in a while. I made the choice today that this is it. I have to start somewhere, I will be going to the gym today.
Post # 5
I am in a similar place – gained about 20 lb. recently after losing 60 and I feel horrible. BUT you really just have to get back on the horse and push through all of that fear/mopeyness.
I’ve started doing the Couch to 5k program at the gym. Now, IDK what your weight loss goals are, but I currently weigh 276 lb. at 5’2″. I am a BIG girl and I run at the gym anyway, and nobody says a word about it or even glances in my direction. I know I look horrible. I know I’m all jiggles and fat rolls. But I’m there to sweat and work and I think people respect that regardless. Anyone who makes fun of you for working out doesn’t deserve to breathe the same air as you – family/friends included.
On the other side, look at what you’re doing wrong food-wise – you probably are well aware. For me, it was lots of ordering in and getting crap on my lunch break instead of cooking and planning healthy, nutritious, homemade dinners and lunches. I went through my pantry and fridge last night and got rid of everything that was a temptation for me or not what I should be eating. I replaced it with fresh fruits, veg, lean meats and whole grains from the store.
I created a general food schedule for the work week ahead, including 2 big recipes to eat from (a turkey chili and an edamame succotash that goes great with grilled chicken and tossed with salad greens) when/if I get lazy.
Look at what you’re doing and make small changes. I also know that my drinking contributed, so for the rest of Feb/entirety of March I’ve decided to give up alcohol aside from one special holiday event which centers around drinking.
You can do it, you just have to push past the negative feelings and refuel yourself with positivity!
Post # 6
I’m sorry OP. That is frustrating. But, make the decision TODAY is the day. Today, you will start eating healthy again….and STICK to that. Once you start feeling better (b/c you’re putting better things in your body), then add back the exercies. It can be as simple as 30 minutes 5 X per week. 30 minutes will fly by if you start with realistic, smaller goals. You don’t need to be at the gym for hours, but you DO need to get moving.
Diet is KEY. Seriously. Get your diet on track and you will be motivated to add in the other things such as exercise. Don’t have the high expectations to lose 10lbs per week. Keep it realistic so you don’t set yourself up for failure.
BEST OF LUCK to you!! YOU CAN DO THIS!!
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge
@Take The Reins: I know what you’re going through. I was the same way. It took a long time before I decided that I needed to take my health back in my control and stop making myself feel guilty.
I got an at home workout program called Insanity. I will not tell you to do this unless you think it will help you. It is an expensive program but you get good results from it. After finishing Insanity (it took me 2 tries, I quit after the 2 weeks the first time) I decided that I didn’t care what I looked like at the gym. I needed the push of competition by being in a class where I didn’t want to be the first one to quit. I also joined a group on Facebook that’s a great community. Everyone has been similar to where I was or you are now and helped keep me motivated to break out of the cycle.
If you want to message me your email address or your facebook I can add you to the team if you’d like. No pressure at all just a great group of people who’s goal is to get and stay healthy.
Post # 8
Thank you all for the advice and kind words. It makes me feel better knowing there are others in the same place as I am, and while I’m not “happy” others feel as I do, it does give me some hope that it can get better!
I know my diet really sucks, portion control is poor, and I snack on unhealthy foods, usually in the evenings after dinner- chips especially, and popcorn, the unhealthy stuff. If I hit Starbucks for a tea, I have to have something to snack on, and a 1200 calorie piece of loaf is my favourite! I am struggling to get my Darling Husband in board with me diet wise, he’s a meat/potatoes/pasta/white bread kind of guy. I have zero resitence when that crap is in the house so not only do I eat it, I over eat it. I signed up for weight watchers and I have been terrible for tracking food because I have to add almost everything I eat since it’s not in there and that annoys me lol. I don’t eat a lot of meat, when I do it’s mostly chicken, turkey and bison as I do not like pork (except bacon) and beef kind of grosses me out. We eat red meat maybe 2-3 times a month? I love fish, salmon especially. I find breakfast boring, lunch is usualy a microwave meal like lean cuisine, and I try to snack on veggies and fruit in between meals. Doesn’t always work!
Darling Husband is pushing me to renew gym membership and that we will go together, which I know won’t happen (hasn’t in the past 4 years we’ve tried). I will face my fears of the gym and at least tackle the treadmill for some walking!
What’s the opinion of the machines? Treadmill, cycling, stair master? Whats the best all around workout to start with?
Post # 9
@MsCarabiner: “Your worth has nothing to do with the amount of gravity that pulls on you.” +1 THIS!
@Take The Reins: See above! (Hugs). Push through it. Keep old pictures around as motivation and remember it is all about mentality and the food you put in! You got lots of great advice 😀 try to think if it as a comeback, not a setback!