(Closed) Hive, I need your help with my bridesmaids!

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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1481 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Its not your FMIL’s wedding and I dont think you shouldve asked the sisters if you didnt want to. This is your day and these girls are going to be there with you by your side. Did you already ask the twin sisters? Maybe you can explain to them that you dont really want them in and if they dont mind not being in and ask your friends instead. My mom kept telling me i should ask my own sister but we arent close so I didnt ask them! good luck

Post # 4
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129 posts
Blushing bee

Tell them exactly that!  You don’t want to go into your wedding with a heavy heart whatsoever, so just do it.  You’ll have regrets.  I bet they will be just thrilled and it will be the best decision you’ve made yet.

Post # 5
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1765 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Well, did you already ask the sisters?

Even if you did, what about having a heart to heart with them? About telling them as much as you love them, talking to them about how they had their friends standing with them… they would probably know exactly what you’re talking about. Telling them how sad you are. I mean, you’d have to be pretty cold-hearted to just ignore the bride crying about how her best friends won’t be standing there with her!

Or, you could just ask your friends and think to yourself, the more the merrier!

Post # 8
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1481 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

You did what was in your heart and you should be proud of that. Im glad to hear that they are nice and were happy and bought their dresses. If you really want your girls to be a part maybe they can be in it another way…maybe have a special reading or something. You’re a great person.

Post # 9
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303 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Yea, that sounds really complicated

I had a similar issue..deep down you want it to be your perfect day but you dont want to go into it pissing off your inlaws..

I would just go with your gut,, you will make the right decision..whatever you decide to do will be fine if it wont make you too mad it might just be easier to keep the twins and have your bfs be your unofficial bridesmaids and support you in that way

Post # 10
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1765 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

That totally makes sense, looking at your explanation now. I think you should just invite your friends and throw your worries out the window. When it comes down to it, would you rather be mad that they weren’t there, or be just a little mad that you had so many people who love you and were willing to support you by standing up for you? 🙂 good luck!!

Post # 11
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102 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Amen to cinemaparadiso!  We beat ourselves up over the rushed decisions, but in the end, they are what they are.  Don’t sweat about asking the FSILs, you don’t want an angry MIL!  Ask your friends, I may be adding a 4th Bridesmaid or Best Man in a few days- exactly 5 weeks before MY wedding!  So what if it’s more than you thought, they’ll be honored and you’ll feel better.

Post # 12
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369 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think you need to ask your friends.  Down the road I think you would regret more not having your friends stand up with you than you would regret having 7 people.

 

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