Post # 1
This morning I was looking at the calendar and noticed that tomorrow is my Fiance and I’s 5 year anniversary. We have celebrated it each year and it is a really special day to me. When telling my Fiance what tomorrow was, I also asked if we would still celebrate this anniversary after we got married. He said no! He said that you only celebrate every other holiday, birthday, etc once a year and there was no reason to celebrate this anniversary and a wedding anniversary.
I would love to still celebrate this anniversary. Or at the very least acknowledge the day with cards and maybe dinner. I think they are two different things and each part of our relationship, total togetherness and wedding togetherness needs to be celebrated.
So bees, is there a right or wrong answer here? What have you done in this situation?
Post # 3
I’m not married yet, but I imagine once we are we will stop celebrating the dating anniversary. We may still use it as an excuse for a date night and dinner out or something (although we don’t do much more than that now). But the real significance will be on our wedding anniversary. Otherwise you could end up with three anniversarys – dating, engagement and wedding.
Post # 4
I agree that each day celebrates a different aspect of your relationship.
I love celebrating our relationship- we not only do “month-a-versaries” but “engage-a-versary”, too! We’ve only been engaged a couple of months, so usually it’s just a few sweet words on that day. I love our monthaversary, because I can plan a little surprise for my Fiance.
Once we are married, though, I expect our priorities to change with time. Being married will surely be much more important than having been engaged. I hope that we will at least celebrate our meeting/dating anniversary… I’m okay if it’s no longer a monthly thing. 😉
Post # 5
I think I would still want to use our dating anniversary as an excuse to go out to dinner or some kind of fun date night, but the real anniversary will probably change to our wedding day. If he’s anything like my Fiance, he may not want to have to remember 2 anniversaries 🙂
Post # 6
There definitely isn’t a right and wrong answer!!! Fiance and I are getting married the day after our 5 year anniversary, so it won’t really matter if we celebrate both and we’ll probably mention our dating anniversary, but the wedding anniversary is much more monumental!
I think celebrating by going for dinner and exchanging cards is a great way to celebrate. That way you’re still acknowledging it, but not making a big fuss…I think that’s a good compromise!
Post # 7
If you want to celebrate, go for it!! I think once we get married, that’s the anniversary we will celebrate, not the dating one.
Post # 8
I agree with the PP’s. If you want to celebrate, go for it! Fiance and I have already decided that we will not be celebrating our dating anniversary after the wedding, so this February will be our last one. I have to confess I’m a little sad about it, but I know the wedding anniversary will feel so much more special.
Post # 9
Hmm I think if you want to celebrate do it!! There is no reason you cant have a date night with your loved one, and what a great excuse for a date!! 🙂
Post # 10
- Wedding: March 2012 - Zama Beach Club, Isla Mujeres, Mexico
I honestly think there is no right or wrong answer to this! Mr. PF and I like to have a reason to celebrate, so we will probably end up doing something for our dating anniversary after we get married.
Although, our dating anniversary falls dangerously close to Thanksgiving…
Post # 11
@petitfour: I agree. There is no right or wrong answer!
Since we are not married yet, our dating anniversary is our ‘anniversary’ that we celebrate. After we get married, we will celebrate our wedding anniversary. I think that we might still use the dating one as an excuse for a date together for dinner or something, but not with gifts and stuff like we do now.
Post # 12
We do acknoledge it – but our dating anniversary is like any other day. We’ll typically say “its been X years” while we have a normal dinner or maybe we’ll go out to a happy hour if its during the work week. But we def don’t celebrate like we do for our wedding anniversary 🙂