Post # 1
The venue is about 40-60 mins away for all guests and while I’ve been leaning heavily toward a cocktail reception I’ve lately become concerned that it is too far away for that type of reception.
- the venue is an Inn which has standard reserved room block policies
- the ceremony and reception are both at the Inn and will take place less than 100ft from each other
- 60 or less guests total
- most guests will be between 25-60 years old
- no children
- two elderly grandmothers (who will have reserved lounge seating)
- 8PM ceremony
- 9PM-12AM reception
- 6 varieties of finger foods, NOTE: caterer guarantees there will be enough for 2-3 of each type per person
- hors d’oeuvres table with cheeses, seasonal fruits and veggies, breads with dipping oils and pestos
- dessert bar of mini tarts, mini cheesecakes, cupcakes, cookies, and cannolis
- open bar
- all pictures will be taken before the ceremony
What do you think? Do you think the distance is too far for a cocktail reception? Should the reception be changed to an earlier time and made into a traditional sit down dinner? Or is the distance acceptable?
Post # 3
I think the distance is fine if the ceremony is in the same location. Cocktail reception or not, your guests still want to drive out to the ceremony and see you get married, and if they’re willing to do that, that’s the important thing. I’ve driven 40 minutes to ceremonies before, then 40 minutes to reception venues afterwards, so I definitely wouldn’t be hindered by it.
Post # 4
Just so I’m clear- the ceremony and reception are at the same place, and you’re asking about the distance for family to drive from their homes. Correct?
If that is the case, 40 min. travel to a wedding is fine. I’m more concerned with the time…I start getting sleepy around 9pm and I’m a third of granny’s age.
Post # 5
@BooRadley: Yes, you’re correct. The ceremony and reception are at the same place. The distance I’m questioning is the one from their homes to the site.
I was also a little worried about the time, but it seems that a cocktail reception must be either in the afternoon or at night. However, it it was moved it to an afternoon affair, I would then worry about shortening the time before the wedding (when there already feels like there is never enough time to get everything done) and guests drinking in the afternoon.
Or, since it would an afternoon affair, would guests be inclined to drink less?
Post # 6
Sounds fun, I’d probably get a room at the inn, sleep in the day of the wedding then party into the night. No need to get up early sounds great!
Post # 7
I think it sounds both fine AND really fun!
Post # 8
I retract my vote, I said it was too far, but didn’t read the following posts indicating it was for both ceremony and reception. 40-60mins is fine. 🙂
Post # 9
I agree. If they are in the same location, then that distance is fine. With traffic around me, it takes almost an hour to get anywhere.