Post # 1
*Sigh* Decisions, decisions. Here’s the bottom line. We have a limited budget and lots of Out of Town guests(approx. 40).
Fiance and I have have been debating on if we should just not invite our Out of Town guests and just include our nearby immediate family, which would take our small guest list of 60 down to 20 or less. I’m ok with that part (hey no hotel reservations for me to deal with!). It’s just that with such a small guest list I’m beginning to wonder if it would even be worth it to have an actual wedding? I guess I’m just wondering how to go about having a small wedding when I’ve been planning for a bigger one from the beginning.
Anyone who’s having a small wedding: How are you going about it? Civil ceremony then dinner? Or are you having a ceremony with a reception? Formal or casual? Are you wearing a wedding dress?
I’m sorry if this seems silly it’s just Fiance isnt giving his 2 cents because he doesnt care who comes as long as we get married in the end, which leaves all the decision making up to me. I want to weigh all my options before I put any money down 🙂
Post # 3
I didn’t/won’t be having a small wedding, but from what I’ve read around the web, some brides have a small ceremony, followed by a nice dinner at a restuarant hosted by the couple or the parents, then call it a night. I’ve seen it both formal and casual.
My fiance is the same as yours: “as long as we are married at the end of the day, then I’ll be happy”. So sweet but frustrating when I’m indecisive! 😛
Post # 4
When my fiance and I were researching venues, we came across quite a few that offered “elopment” packages for weddings of fewer than 25 or 20 guests. They were abbreviated versions of their wedding packages and were considerably cheaper. Maybe there are a few places in your area that offer those?
Have you thought about what you truly want out of your wedding day? If you picture yourself 3, 5, or 10 years from now, are there things that you think you’d regret doing or not doing?
I think your wedding should be what you want no matter the size – whether that’s a formal event with a fancy gown and a sit-down dinner, or a more casual affair.
Post # 5
I don’t think you have to deal with hotel reservations, it’s a nicety but not necessary.
I think not inviting the OOTers is fine, as long as they are the same kind of relation. I mean its your choice, but if you include the three sisters who live nearby but not the one who lives in another state, the OOTer will feel excluded.