Post # 1
My newly married friend is upset at her husband and asked me for advice. Unfortunately, I’m not sure if I’m giving her the right advice. Also, this kind of made me think about my own soon-to-be marriage and what I would do in that situation.
My friend (we’ll call her A) has plans tomarrow night at her college. A’s husband is planning on inviting her friend (we’ll call her L) over to hang out at their house. Although L is not married, she is dating someone who in the military. Apparently, A has just recently talked L out of cheating on her boyfriend.
So, I guess the real question is, is it OK for a married man to spend time alone with a single woman?
Post # 3
Oh, apparently there’s more that she didn’t initially tell me. . . I guess she told him that it was inappropriate for them to be together alone. He told her that he wouldn’t do it, since he needed a favor from her this weekend. He also said something about being an adult and that she wasn’t his mother.
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2018 - Oakland Manor
Well, this is a bit more complicated. On one hand, yes of course I trust Mr.D to be alone with single women. On the other, would it bother me if a girl with a known wandering eye was to hang out with him alone? At the very least it would make me uncomfortable.
It might be helpful for your friend to discuss with her husband why this makes her feel uncomfortable, and why L in particular makes her feel uncomfortable. I probably wouldn’t have taken the route of an authoritarian and said" it’s forbidden and inappropriate" because that probably would make him feel like a child. I know if Mr.D said those words to me I’d be miffed and probably spout off "you don’t trust me!? Who are you, my mother?!". But thats probably because I get a little too defensive about everything. Seriously though, how would you feel if your fiance said that to you? I’d feel like they didn’t think I was an adult.
If instead they approached it from, "this makes me uncomfortable because…" I’d be much more willing to listen to their concerns.