(Closed) Hmmm… Guest list question.

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I don’t have any experience with this but I don’t think you can invite people without letting them know about this detail.  They will need to know that they are probably going to be camping to come to your wedding.  Unless there is a bigger town close by where they could stay and then drive back there after the wedding?

Post # 5
613 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

LOL!! Dont feel guilty CHK. To ‘thin our herd”, I only sent Save-The-Date Cards to people we wanted to invite. The mandatories from parents just got the invite. Without the extra time to plan, our list trimmed to exactly what we were hoping for… But I would never admit this if questioned

Post # 6
2186 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@FutureMrsMorgan – OOOH GREAT IDEA! im so stealing that….

Post # 7
235 posts
Helper bee

I would try and trim that guest list as much as possible…or change your location 🙁  I think you’re inviting disaster if you invite nearly 300 people when there’s only room for 5% of them.  Can you have a larger (more casual) party somewhere after you return from your honeymoon?

Post # 8
64 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

My one suggestion regarding the hotel rooms is to go ahead and tell the people you really want there (e.g. sorority sisters) about the situation so they can book rooms before all the people you don’t necessarily want there. Otherwise, you might end up w/ a lot of people close by that you aren’t thrilled to see.

Post # 9
2470 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Are there any houses nearby to rent out?

just be ready for people to not attend the wedding due to no accommodations. Can you do a smaller wedding away and then a reception party closer to your guests after?

Post # 10
4566 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Is there any way to change the location? At all? Smile People are going to think you’re being really inconsiderate having them drive almost an hour just to get there, then an hour back. I know that if I found this information out after I got there, I would be absolutely furious; I hate hate hate driving (especially at night on windy roads) and the closer things are together the better. I would seriously question the hospitality of the bride if the location was choosen because “it’s pretty” and not because there were bigger towns with more hotel rooms. I’m really not trying to sound harsh (even though I know it’s coming across that way) but it’s something you really need to think about.

Post # 12
1207 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Is his mom helping pay for the wedding?  If she’s contributing, then no you really are kind of stuck.  If she’s not contributing then you could def put your foot down, but that might cause drama, so you will have to weigh your options.  As far as the accomodations, I would be sure that everyone you invite has a place to stay that’s not a 55 min drive.  If that means you have to invite people without a plus one, then that’s what you need to do.  Maybe instead of inviting people you don’t know, you can send an announcement after the wedding.

Post # 14
542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Can you compromise on the situation?  Have the ceremony where you would like it with the 50 or so people that the two of you would like to have present and then afterward have a reception in the larger town for everyone?  Still not ideal, but then it would be a smaller number of people traveling and then hopefully not having to drive back the 55 miles at the end of the night.  Or just having a larger reception at some other date?  The current situation sounds like it is a potential nightmare just waiting to happen.


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