(Closed) how many people to invite? How many will likely come?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
8695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I heard around a holiday the declines may be a bit higher. My wedding is on Labor Day and we want 150 but are inviting 220-230.

Post # 4
23597 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

We had a labor day weekend wedding in 2011 and invited about 200, with 155 present on the day of the wedding. Hope that helps!

Post # 5
960 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@julyweddinglovebirds:  Why not have an “A” list and a “B” list. Have about 140 on the A list and the 2nd list just keep pulling from when you get more than your needed declines.

Just have the RSVP date a bit earlier so people don’t feel snubbed that they were invited last minute 🙂

Post # 6
967 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Elky:  +1


I wouldn’t risk having more people than you could accommodate. Send out your invites and have an early RSVP date, so that you can send out B-list invites without it being completely obvious that they are B-list.

Post # 7
532 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013


There’s this awesome guest excel spread sheet that allows you to input how likely the guest is to come (25 -50-75-100) percent: http://www.theplunge.com/checklists/guest-list-spreadsheet-for-wedding-planning

FH and I found it so useful. We marked those who are just courtesy invites (can’t show, but are close family), versus those that were flip a coin or maybe one partner of a couple would come (50) versus definites like immediate family and wedding party (100).  We based our judgments for people based on how close they were, where they lived, and our knowledge of their willingness and ability to travel. 

We’re halfway through receiving our RSVPs and so far it’s dead on

We wanted ideally 100 on the nose. 
We invited 142 because many were out of town or across country. 
RSVP deadline is April 12, we currently have 45 people attending. Many of our local friends (young) haven’t bother to send their card back. 

Based on those estimate RSVPs we have left, we’ll wind up 95-110. 




Post # 8
1022 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@julyweddinglovebirds:  keep in mind that even if people decline, you still extended them an invitation, and they can change their mind and come, so if you go a and b list you could still end up with extra people.

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