(Closed) Hmmm, would you invite friends like these to your wedding?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
3170 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I probably wouldn’t invite these girls because it sounds like you aren’t even friends with them anymore. If you wedding is just in intimate thing with family and wedding party, a lot of friends won’t be coming. I really wouldn’t worry about it. If they were to judge you because you are having a small wedding then they are not real friends any way.

Post # 4
1416 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I only invited people I could see myself still being friends with in ten years. If you think they’ll never grow up and your lifestyles will keep you from being friends in the future, why invite them to your wedding now? You don’t even really seem like friends now let alone years from now. Only people who approve of your relationship get to help celebrate it!

Post # 6
249 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@Galang_Gyal:  I have a gaggle of friends like these. I know what it’s like to hang out with people you don’t really like a whole lot.  If it’s just going to be family and bridal party I think this group would seem very out of place.  If you feel weird having already asked them for addresses just explain the new guest list arrangement and, if you feel that’s not enough, perhaps still invite them to the bachelorette party (they sound like that kind of crowd).

It sounds as though they are just kind of bitchy people.  They will probably find something nasty to gossip about whether or not you invite them so i’d say don’t bother.

Post # 7
1876 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Do you hang out with them? How often do you talk to them? If you don’t maintain a friendship with them, I wouldn’t invite them. And I would just call them up and explain that unfortunately your budget got slashed and you can’t invite any friends. If yo do want to keep a friendship with them, I would find room to invite them. But ONLY if you consider them true friends.

Post # 8
3567 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I would just invite who you want, and tell everyone else (including these girls) that it’s just a small wedding for family. That way you aren’t really “burning any bridges” with these girls.  However, if you don’t talk to them much anymore, I wouldn’t invite them anyway…you definitely don’t want them there talking trash about your relationship the entire time! 

Post # 10
652 posts
Busy bee

@Galang_Gyal:  I would invite them, but not ask them to be part of the bridal party.

Post # 11
1571 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Unfortunately, great memories are not enough to sustain a friendship. I would not be inviting them. 

Post # 14
3697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I wouldn’t, but I was pretty ruthless with my guestlist.  If you’re really friends, they’ll get over it.  If not, you’ll be glad you didn’t spend the money for their dinner and drinks. 

Post # 15
1181 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I find that most girls go through this stage.  I think it’s just the fact that they missed having you around.  I find this to be more true for girls who are not in relationships or in bad relationships.  In regards to inviting them to your wedding? I wouldn’t invite them because you said you only wanted it to be family and the bridal party.

Post # 16
75 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Reminds me of a saying: “With friends like these, who needs enemies?”  I think you already know your answer (I wouldn’t invite them).

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