Post # 1
Question for you….I went to a wedding a little over 2 months ago. The bride was a great friend in hs, we lost touch, then reconnected since we are both getting married within a few months of each other.
I gave her cash in a card and never received a thank you. She is pretty on top of things and I’m worried she didn’t get it. I know it’s only been two months and they did buy a house a second before they got married….what would you do in this situation? We are having dinner next weekend—I would be mortified if she didn’t think I sent her a gift! However, I don’t want to upset her if she hasn’t gotten her thank you cards out yet. Lesson learned–checks!
Any advice would be greatly apprecaited….
Post # 3
@AstoriaBoston: Maybe you could just say something briefly to her like, since you moved recently I just wanted to make sure you got the card I sent (you don’t even have to mention the cash part unless she says she didn’t get it).
Post # 4
@KatNYC2011: that’d be slick! But I put it in their wedding box on the gift table.
Post # 5
i think you have a year to send out thank yous after a wedding – i’d give it more time
Post # 6
Thanks, I’m just being sensitive.
Post # 7
@AstoriaBoston: Lesson learned for US – get to those thank you notes PROMPTLY. Let’s not put other people in your position.
But some people never get around to thank you notes at all. I went to a wedding TWO years ago, was good friends with the groom, he married a pretty proper woman, high society, beautiful wedding, prominent job… I never got a thank you note for the gift I had mailed to their home. Only a verbal one at the wedding. Sometimes people surprise you… It doesn’t mean they didn’t get the gift or they didn’t appreciate it. (But THOSE people get talked about of wedding boards. And probably in real life too. So I still vote for being proper and sending out thank yous as soon as possible after receiving any gift!)
Post # 8
My wedding was in the middle of June and I’m hoping to get my thank-yous out next week. We waited for photos from the photog – which we didn’t get until the first week of August. Add to that a week turnaround to get the thank-yous, and I’ve been booking it to get my thank yous done.
Long story short, she may just not have them done yet. You could casually mention it at the dinner – ask if she’s all caught up after the wedding and how things are going and even ask if she got your card with all the chaos with moving.
Post # 9
It’s been almost a month since our reception, and I’m still working on thank you notes. I have about 13 more to write, so after this holiday I’ll finish those last few up and get them out.
Someone said you have a year to get them out, but that’s not true. You should get them out a month after you get back from your honeymoon. To make someone wait a year for a thank you really isn’t very polite.
Since you put the card and money in the card box at the reception, I’d say you can be fairly certain that she did actually get your gift. It is very unusual for gift to get lost or come up missing in that situation. I don’t really know of an easy way to really ask about it.
I guess the real question is, do you want to ask if she got it because you’re worried she didn’t get it or are you wondering why you haven’t gotten a thank you?
ETA: I just re-read the last paragraph of my post and it sounds a bit judgemental! Please don’t think I’m judging you or inferring anything. I just said it to make you think about your reason for wanting to ask. I think she probably just hasn’t gotten around to doing them yet, and you don’t need to worry.
Post # 10
@MrsTVLover: That is a myth. You do not have a year to thank someone for a gift. They should be sent as soon as possible. Anything more then a month or two is pushing it, IMO.
Post # 11
@Loribeth: I was worried she would think I came to her beautiful wedding and didn’t bother to bring a card/gift.
She may have gotten photos put on her thank you card–if so, that may be why…and it has only been 2 months….hopefully it’ll all just work out.
Post # 12
@hisgoosiegirl: I was going to mention that — maybe they are waiting for photos to make the photo note cards?
Post # 13
Yep, got a thank u note in–you ladies were right, she ordered photo thank u cards:)