- 8 years ago
- Wedding: December 2015
First, I want to clarify. My wonderful, loving, and now fully committed, Fiance is not cheating with this other woman. Also I want to warn you, this will take awhile to explain…
At the beginning of the week Fiance tells me in normal chatting that a girl he use to work with friended him on FaceBook and he was catching up with her.
Ugh this girl… she is very pretty, and knows it. Years ago, before we were engaged, she use to have a MySpace account where she posted all kinds of pictures of herself in various different states of undress. One’s of her washing her car in short bootie shorts, a push up bra, and high heels washing her car. Ones in which she was laying in bed with nothing but a bra on, holding her finger in her mouth, etc.Fiance made a few comments on these photos that I felt crossed the line of what should be appropriate for someone in a committed relationship. He felt he was just playing around with a friend. She also flirted with him online, which I hated. He also explained that away, “that’s just how she is”. I do believe him that he thought he was being just a friend. Its her that I don’t trust one bit. She later deleted her page.We had massive fights over her, and his refusal to even acknowledge to me that I was hurt or upset.Shortly after this, we broke up. Not over this, but I am still convinced that this didn’t help. He came to his senses and we got back together. 6 months later he proposed to me.
A few weeks later she invited a few of the people that all worked together to meet for lunch. They had all worked together very closely for 2 years and during that whole time Fiance and I had been together.As we all met for lunch she introduced everyone to her brand to boyfriend by name, including one of the other guys daughter that she had never met. When she got to me she just said “and this is… um… well” and completely acted like she had no idea what my name was. Fiance stepped up and said my name. I didn’t feel like that was normal at all and totally felt like it was meant as a slight against me.I brought this up to Fiance, and again he defended her to me. He said he didn’t think it was odd at all to not know the name of a person you haven’t met before. I argued that is is odd to not know the name of the long term girlfriend of your ‘friend’ that you sat next to every single day at work. That women are detail orientated, and that women remember little things like that. He still refused to acknowledge that it hurt me.That kinda ended that, and still 3 years later I’m not ok with any of this about her, but I figured I would try to let it go. And besides, he hadn’t talked to her in ages.
So now onto the current. I am not happy at all about her coming up out of nowhere. I have to admit, I was bad and looked at her FaceBook. Its mostly private, so I can’t see anything other than profile pictures, and honestly its more of the same type of pictures just like before.
I trust Fiance… he is committed to us, more now than ever before. It’s her I don’t like. I don’t feel comfortable at all with her being around. I honestly haven’t talked to Fiance about this yet, I don’t want to argue with him needlessly.
I’m I just being crazy? I try as hard as I can to not be the jealous type, but I have a feeling that’s whats happening here.Any advise?