Post # 1
= big old mess for your love ones to clean up after you pass… the amount of unlit candles-basically in wrappers with price tags on them is driving me up the wall. i have never seen so many sea shells, christmas ornaments, bee themed candles in my life-unless it was in a store!!!!!!
just a vent- overwhelmed by the stuff mil left for us to take care of…
Post # 3
TO @asianyoushi: lol, vent away.
But you should be aware, that people who are shopaholics or hoarders, have a form of OCD… and generally this is just a “symptom” of a far larger problem…
Be that depression, or something else going on in their life that they aren’t very happy with… and these things manifest into them needing to “hold on” to STUFF.
What they can’t get for their emotional needs, they are trying to fill a void with STUFF
Any clues to what had your Mother-In-Law in such a desperate situation?
What was causing her such pain & grief in her life ?
I get that cleaning up is a PITA.. but you need to find some compasion to try and understand what the underlying problem was for this poor woman.
Only then can you truly understand the problem (task at hand) to deal with it with some sort of respect
(Remember this was HER LIFE… however sad that had become)
Post # 4
Damn…. I’m sorry about that…
I’ve watched quite a number of Hoarders shows, and it is just insane how some people choose to live (in my opinion.)
Perhaps you can have a garage sale and use the money towards her favorite charity?
Post # 5
there will be a sale…. its just the matter of time when we go through everything before we can plan a sale… its crazy how many books she had– we are on box 13 of books..each box has atleast 40 or more books…
i dont know what she was void she was trying to fill… i think she just love buying things…
Post # 6
We had the same issue when we went to SO’s grandmothers house a few years ago to try and clean up the first floor so they could add a handicap accesible bathroom for her since she has MS. There was so much Old Spice, I’m pretty sure she could have stocked the local Rite Aid for a few months.
Post # 7
Oh gosh I have boxes and boxes from Zara with stuff that hasnt been touched yet!
Post # 8
i think mil had stock in crabtree,pottery barn and kitchen kaboodle. so far most of reciepts and tags are from these three places… not sure where she got the books but most look brand new…..
Post # 9
YES….I have seen family who keep everything. And take a peice of paper with whatever on it and make tons of copies and keep those copies!
I never want to be like that. I never want to have a houseful of things I dont need. Thats why I have become one of those people that will throw things out. Like with a lot of my memories from my childhood. I took pictures of all the balloons I have gotten throughout my lifeand then threw them away. SO I still have the memory of it, but not the item. It saves on space!