Post # 1
i need your guys help. I love to shop and want to buy everything, when i mean everything i mean home stuff, decor, books, tv shows on dvd, board games, holiday decor, and much more like camping stuff, game room stuff, entertainng stuff, exc and outdoor stuff. I want things from various stores,online stores, and companys. i have things and wishlists that i want from amazon, nostalgia electrics, target, maceys, dicks sporting goods, scheills, bedbathandbeyond, bath and body works, cabellias, possibly bass outdoor world, and possibly the disney store. on my amazon wishlist alone i have 2368 items on my wishlist. how do i decide what things i want and decide what i get and how much of each i get? suggestions??????????
ps i also want home furniture too.
Post # 3
Stop making lists of what you want and start making a list of what you need.
Post # 5
1. Delete all of your wishlists. – All of them. Seriously.
2. Look at what you can realistically afford for spending money each month.
3. No excuses – do not spend over that.
5. Do not browse stores or the internet for fun.
6. Get counseling to help you figure out why you feel you need to fill your life with so many things.
7. Have DH/FI do the shopping for you.
8. Look into other hobbies that don’t involve shopping. Running or biking, for example. Spend time focusing on those, not on things.
9. Recognize that compuslive shopping and all of these things are not improving your life.
Post # 6
The website Money Saving Expert has lots of tips. It sounds like you need to completely stop shopping for anything other than your basic needs. Do you think you can do this on your own? If not, you might need the help of a consellor. Good luck.
Post # 7
Erase your lists, don’t go to garage sales or 2nd hand stores, put a cap on your credit cards, and if you are married or in a relationship, I would get him to do shopping for you. I would also seek some counseling. Being a shopoholic is a bad, bad thing. My aunt is one, and now it has caused her to hoard. Her place is nearly inhabitable. Don’t do that to yourself.
Post # 8
You need to realize your Needs vs Wants. Hoarding is a horrible disorder.
Post # 9
@outgoingcutie15: Are you in debt?
If you are, then I suggest taking some drastic measures like deleting all wishlists and possibly selling unused items you have at home. Possibly see a therapist if you feel you have an addiction to shopping.
If you’re not in debt, you’re still taking away from things you really want (unless you’re made of money, which I assume you are not). Vacations, a home, retirement, car(s) are usually more important to most people than buying random crap. If you want any of those things, your spending is taking away from it. Keep that in mind.
I set goals and stick within a budget. My SO and I work out our budgets together, and have agreed upon fun spending money.
I always have lists of stuff I want… short-term and longer term. I decide what I really want and what I can do without. It take some discipline, but it also helps cut down on unnecessary clutter as well as saving $$.
Post # 10
You buy what you can afford and what you have room for in your living space. If you think you might have a hoarding problem, I’d rethink that American Girl doll collection you were talking about starting a few days ago.
Post # 11
I have a friend who has the same issue with shopping and her house is packed. It is becoming a real problem. I agree with what others said about getting counseling, I think that might really help you out.
Definitely limit your access to credit cards. You don’t want to have a debt problem, and credit cards with high interest rates are SO hard to pay off. If you’re in a relationship, talk to your SO about it. They might be able to help you if they are aware of what is going on.
Post # 12
I think this is more of an emotional issue. Have you looked at why you behave this way? Is this been a habit to make you feel better?
Post # 13
Yea I hear ya. When It comes to Tv shows and books I am doing good on limiting on those stuff and renting at the library first before buying the books. As far as TV shows on dvd I am limiting on what to buy on dvd by renting first to see if i just like it but not want it on dvd or if I absolutly love the show ie the whole series that i just have it have it on dvd.
for instantce. saved by the bell. i am watching it on amazon. i like it but i dont like it enough to have it on dvd.
Post # 14
@cmbr: I still really wanna do the american girl doll collection but i dont know if it will be on my top list of priorities right now. I really love us history and want to do that sot of collection. but i should get my shopping habbit in order first.
Post # 15
@jmaze: i agree to some extent but if i ever bought something i only needed then my life would be miserable because its like saying i cant buy anything for lesisure. for example if i wanted a nook to read catalogs online, its like saying its a want and anything i want for fun would be like i would never had fun.
i did think about a hobby like someone on here suggested ie scrapbooking or making lotions or soaps but idk if it would be considered a want.
Post # 16
I think you should seek counseling and find out what is triggering your desire to have all the things. I believe it’s an anxiety-based disorder, and I’ve heard it is very difficult to treat, but you deserve to live a life where you are able to appreciate the things you have and afford the things you need. Good luck.