(Closed) hoarding ughhhhhhhh plus shopaloic

posted 6 years ago in Home
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Stop making lists of what you want and start making a list of what you need.

Post # 5
Hostess
3571 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

1. Delete all of your wishlists.  – All of them. Seriously. 

2. Look at what you can realistically afford for spending money each month. 

3. No excuses – do not spend over that. 

5. Do not browse stores or the internet for fun.

6. Get counseling to help you figure out why you feel you need to fill your life with so many things.

7. Have DH/FI do the shopping for you.

8. Look into other hobbies that don’t involve shopping. Running or biking, for example.  Spend time focusing on those, not on things.  

9. Recognize that compuslive shopping and all of these things are not improving your life. 

 

Post # 6
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1652 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

The website Money Saving Expert has lots of tips. It sounds like you need to completely stop shopping for anything other than your basic needs. Do you think you can do this on your own? If not, you might need the help of a consellor. Good luck.

Post # 7
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7649 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Erase your lists, don’t go to garage sales or 2nd hand stores, put a cap on your credit cards, and if you are married or in a relationship, I would get him to do shopping for you. I would also seek some counseling. Being a shopoholic is a bad, bad thing. My aunt is one, and now it has caused her to hoard. Her place is nearly inhabitable. Don’t do that to yourself.

 

Post # 8
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979 posts
Busy bee

You need to realize your Needs vs Wants.  Hoarding is a horrible disorder.

Post # 9
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8041 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@outgoingcutie15:  Are you in debt?

If you are, then I suggest taking some drastic measures like deleting all wishlists and possibly selling unused items you have at home. Possibly see a therapist if you feel you have an addiction to shopping.

If you’re not in debt, you’re still taking away from things you really want (unless you’re made of money, which I assume you are not). Vacations, a home, retirement, car(s) are usually more important to most people than buying random crap. If you want any of those things, your spending is taking away from it. Keep that in mind.

I set goals and stick within a budget. My SO and I work out our budgets together, and have agreed upon fun spending money.

I always have lists of stuff I want… short-term and longer term. I decide what I really want and what I can do without. It take some discipline, but it also helps cut down on unnecessary clutter as well as saving $$.

Post # 10
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3688 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

You buy what you can afford and what you have room for in your living space. If you think you might have a hoarding problem, I’d rethink that American Girl doll collection you were talking about starting a few days ago.

Post # 11
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753 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I have a friend who has the same issue with shopping and her house is packed.  It is becoming a real problem.  I agree with what others said about getting counseling, I think that might really help you out.

 

Definitely limit your access to credit cards.  You don’t want to have a debt problem, and credit cards with high interest rates are SO hard to pay off.  If you’re in a relationship, talk to your SO about it.  They might be able to help you if they are aware of what is going on.

Post # 12
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1339 posts
Bumble bee

I think this is more of an emotional issue. Have you looked at why you behave this way? Is this been a habit to make you feel better?

Post # 16
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2103 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I think you should seek counseling and find out what is triggering your desire to have all the things. I believe it’s an anxiety-based disorder, and I’ve heard it is very difficult to treat, but you deserve to live a life where you are able to appreciate the things you have and afford the things you need. Good luck.

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