- 9 years ago
Lately, I’ve been noticing it seems like the SO and I rarely spend any quality time with one another (aside from daily stuff-meals together, etc) unless it involves watching a movie, or the ocassional date night out.
We’re opposites when it comes to a lot of things that we enjoy, as far as downtime goes. I like to veg on the couch and watch my tv shows, or curl up with a good book. SO’s a gamer (WoW and MK mostly), and I’m not. I have ZERO interest in gaming, just as he has ZERO interest in reading. Neither of us wishes to change those aspects about the other, so that’s not the issue. I’m not complaining about his gaming, nor do I want him to quit playing. It gives me time to read, and/or watch my shows in peace, lol. (Sorry, this is gonna get rambly, but stick with me)
When we do watch a movie together, as soon as it’s over, he’s bouncing off the couch, and onto gaming he goes, or outside to poke around in the yard or tinker on his car. Meanwhile, I’d like to snuggle on the couch a bit more 🙁
Date nights (which are few and far between, but we’re getting better at having them more often-ugh for opposite schedules sometimes) usually consist of dinner and a movie, and then back home. I’d like to go dancing sometimes afterward. SO doesn’t care to. When we get back home, it’s back to our separate ways.
On vacay, he wants to be on the go-go-go, whereas I’d rather just chill and not even look at a clock.
In short, we’re opposites when it comes to these sorts of things. And there’s nothing wrong with having opposite interests. It’s what keeps things from getting boring and stale. We do have areas where our interests overlap, and though it doesn’t sound like it right now, we do enjoy each other’s company and lots of the same things.
I have spoken to him about it, and said specifically, “Baby, I wish we had more hobbies and interests we could do together. I like spending quality time with you.” His response is usually, “Yeah, me too, punkin’, but I don’t like to watch tv like you do. You should start playing WoW.” -Blank stare from me- “Ummm, no. Wanna read this book I just finished?” Silence from him. (Yeeeeahhhh, that’s what I thought)
I keep telling him that we need to find a hobby, something, anything we can do and enjoy together. But neither of us can come up with anything that really suits both of our tastes equally.
So, I turn to you lovely, wise ladies for advice and suggestions. A few pertinent details to keep in mind: We have two kiddos, so that’s a factor, and though we’re not *technically* on a strict budget, we’re both cheapskates when it comes to lots of things, (see, something in common!) and prefer to spend frugally. For example, while we are splurging and going on a family vacay to the beach next week, we got a GREAT deal on a hotel, so that allows us to splurge on a few extra things that normally we wouldn’t even consider.
If you made it through all that, you get a gold star
Help? Suggestions? Commiserations? Thanks!