(Closed) Holding grudges

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
20 posts
  • Wedding: September 2013

I know how you feel I tend to get mad fast sometime but, I personally think you had the right to be bothered he shouldn’t be texting enyone when his with you you’re supposed to be his center of attention. But, when I’m in those situations I just let my fiance know that I don’t lke that about him and he should change it because you have to let him know before he gets comfortable doing this things. And that goes both ways for me and him.

Post # 4
4800 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

So maybe it’s just me, but I completely do not understand why you were mad at him. He was texting a friend? I disagree that you should be his focus constantly – married couples spend lots of times together, it’s okay to text friends sometimes. I’m assuming you’re annoyed simply because his friend is female but come on now, if they’ve been friends forever and she is female, where is the harm in that?

I know that’s not really the point of your post, but I felt I had to speak up just because it’s such a silly little thing to care about at all, much less hold a grudge over. It sounds like you have a good guy who appreciates you, and you will be much more stress-free if you can not stress over an innocent conversation/friendship!

Post # 5
240 posts
Helper bee

I read a psychology paper once that said people who hold grudges as adults were more likely to not have a good relationship with their mothers. I just thought that was interesting.

I believe that holding a grudge against another person is just a reflection of yourself, it doesn’t really have anything to do with your SO.  Maybe you should consider your own deeper issues and work on them. In your post I thought you sounded insecure and jealous, so maybe you could explore why that is.

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