(Closed) Holding out on "hoo ha" until the wedding night??

posted 5 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: How long are you keeping SO from the goods??
    I tried.... it didn't work! : (7 votes)
    4 %
    1 Week... it's all I can handle! : (8 votes)
    5 %
    2 weeks - long enough! : (5 votes)
    3 %
    2+ weeks - and it is (gonna be/was) so hard! : (24 votes)
    14 %
    Virgin over here! Never have, and can't wait to make him my one and only! : (31 votes)
    18 %
    No point in waiting! : (84 votes)
    50 %
    We will be way too tired after the big day! : (10 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
    10367 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I didn’t. I don’t really see the point in this if you’re not waiting for religious reasons.

    Post # 6
    2866 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I don’t plan to. And for the love of God if you are old enough to get married you are old enough to say vagina, penis and sex. 

    Post # 7
    9917 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Do you really say hoo ha?  Are you talking about sex or something else?

    Post # 8
    533 posts
    Busy bee

    What the hell is hoo ha? 

    Post # 9
    9082 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I commonly go without sex because my husband is military. I can tell you from first hand, it isn’t going to make your first night together any more special.

    There will be people who will disagree with me, people who think I’m wrong, but all I can offer is my first hand experience.

    If you’re two, consenting, loving adults, why bother denying one another that two people in love give one another?

    It doesn’t make it special, or amazing, or more pleasurable… it doesn’t make you appreciate it more, it doesn’t make you feel like you flew over the moon and back.

    Sex is a part of a healthy relationship and while it shouldn’t be the cornerstone, you wouldn’t deny each other hugs or kisses or other intimate things. I just don’t see the point in denying each other sex. It makes people cranky and irritable.

    Post # 10
    3429 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    IT’s been a while for me and Fiance. we are long distance and I’m used to it. I plan on holding out for as long as I/we can…I love anticipation. 

    Post # 11
    1846 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We aren’t going to hold off, and we talked about it already and I honestly don’t even think we will have sex on our wedding night… We both know we are going to be exhausted!! If we do then great, but we aren’t going to force it…of we are tired, we’re passing out!!

    We have a very healthy sex life, and we have a very romantic honeymoon planned immediate following the wedding, so there will be plenty of time for some action while we are away. 

    Post # 12
    823 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Idk, I used to agree that once you’ve already been having sex, stopping to hold out before the wedding was silly, wouldn’t make it special or better, etc.


    however, Fiance has been gone for the past two weeks M-F and is only home on weekends due to training for his new job. Even five days is a long time for us to go without sex, and let me tell you, the sex we’ve been having on the weekends he’s home is AMAZING. We both anticipate it all week and want each other so badly by the time Saturday’s here, and it makes for some awesome sexy time 😉


    We weren’t going to hold out, but now we’re considering it just so that our honeymoon will be even more explosive. 

    Post # 13
    300 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    There’s nothing wrong with having sex the morning of. In fact, I’d recommend it.

    Post # 15
    9082 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    @princess-pea:  Just don’t get your hopes up. When men don’t regularly do the deed or masturbate, it’s not going to last very long.

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