- 4 years ago
- Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom
I need a little consoling and maybe some advice.
In several previous posts I have mentioned I am estranged from my family. Up until this past spring (when we became fully estranged) I still had a sort-of relationship with them. I went home for major holidays, and birthday phone calls. My relationship has been toxic with my parents for as long as I can remember, and I moved out when I was 18. But one thing that has always been important to my family is traditions, so I always grinned and beared it and came home for the holidays.
Easter came and went, and I didn’t go home. This was ok because Easter is the ‘lesser’ of the ‘big three’ in my family (Easter, Thanksgiving, Christmas)…and I have had to miss it in previous years due to my work.
Thanksgiving is this coming weekend (I am Canadian). This will be the first MAJOR holiday where I haven’t gone home. Don’t get me wrong, it is a GOOD thing that I don’t have my family in my life anymore. That being said, a small part of me is going to be missing the special Thanksgiving traditions my family had…don’t even get me started on Christmas! NO I can’t see them, and NO I don’t have any intention of seeing any of my extended family (we were never close anyways).
My DH’s family has always traditionally done their Thanksgiving dinner on the holiday Monday, and this year will be no different. Sunday (my family’s traditional day) is just going to feel a little empty. Also, before you ask, my Darling Husband has no interest in starting a new tradition for us on Sunday…he just wants to take the day to catch up on housework and gaming…he wants to treat it like any other Sunday, but that is how he was raised.
Can anyone else relate?