(Closed) Holiday Cards-Do you have to be engaged to send?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: How TOGETHER should you be to send out a holiday card?
    At least engaged : (7 votes)
    11 %
    Living together : (33 votes)
    54 %
    Wait until you're married : (6 votes)
    10 %
    Whenever you want! You're happy and in love...share it! : (15 votes)
    25 %
  • Post # 3
    951 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @girlygirl885:  I think it depends on what you think the reception from friends and family. Fiance wanted to send out photo cards last Christmas when we were not engaged (4 years together) and I thought it would be weird. This year, now that we are engaged, I was all for it.

    Post # 5
    2214 posts
    Buzzing bee

    My SO and I aren’t engaged yet (or even living together), but we sent out a joint holiday card last year and plan to do so again this year. Last year was our second holiday season together, and he was all for it. We didn’t put a picture of us on it though. We just put a picture of my dog and plan to do the same this time around. 🙂 No one in my circle of family/friends thought it was werid, or if they did, they didn’t mention it. I know a few couples that do this as well.

    Post # 6
    951 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @girlygirl885:  If it seems like a normal thing amongst your circle I would go for it!

    Post # 7
    9181 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    @girlygirl885:  I definitely don’t think it’s weird, as long as you two are serious about each other and are sharing a life together.  We would have done this before getting engaged/married, except I never got around to it 😉

    Post # 8
    508 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    In general, I think photo cards are weird. But that’s just me.

    Whether it’s a photo card or just a generic holiday greeting card, I don’t think it matters if you’re engaged or not to send out a joint one.

    Post # 9
    4375 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    We sent out some joint ones to family while we were dating (mainly bc he wouldn’t bother writing his own, so they only way his family would get cards from him was if he signed the ones I sent), but we’ve never done photo cards. I think if you were my friends IRL and weren’t living together, I would see a joint photo card as a little odd, but not think twice about a general holiday card signed by both of you.

    Post # 10
    13289 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    We started sending joint holiday cards once we lived together.  I think if you’re just sending to close family and close friends (i.e, not great Aunt Sally who you haven’t seen in 2 years), it should be fine, but I wouldn’t send every single card from both of you.

    Post # 11
    45 posts
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @girlygirl885:  Hi! We’ve been sending cards for a couple of years now, only being engaged. My dad had some pushback but it was fine– people liked it! This year will be the first time we send it as an engaged couple!


    Post # 12
    569 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    with my current Fiance, we started last year as we live together.. however we put a picture of our puppy in the front and a smaller picture of us in the back and only sent it out to our parents and close friends.. this year we wont be sending any.. i dont think people care much about them anyways lols..so we decided to save the money 🙂 same reasoning goes for printed save the dates… 


    Post # 13
    2718 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    My now husband & I sent them before we were engaged a few years. Whenever you want to!

    Post # 14
    6586 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Living together. We were living together for many years before even getting engaged. I sent our cards to our family and close friends, and over the years extended the list. For most of those years it was our dog, in a funny setup (like wrapped in xmas lights, or on the beach with a santa hat, etc.


    Post # 15
    11233 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I said living together. Fiance and I sent out photo holiday cards last year before we were engaged and people loved them.

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