Post # 1
One of the biggest stresses about the holidays is arranging my schedule to fit everyone’s plans. It’s always a big mess trying to coordinate our schedule with my parents, grandparents, his family, and his aunts.
Basically, the way this year is working out, Fiance and I have to open the presents we’re giving each other at my parents’ Christmas Eve party because that’s just the way the timing breaks down. I really don’t like this, because A) the presents are all already wrapped and under HIS tree at his house and B) I would like to have a special moment, just the two of us without people shouting and the sounds of tons of presents being ripped open. He has a fireplace right by our tree, so I’m romanticizing the idea of this nice fire and us drinking wine and opening presents, when in reality it’s just going to be a zoo.
Whose house do you do the holidays at, and how do you find time for yourselves?
Post # 3
We live together, so we open our presents to each other Christmas morning before we go anywhere, then this year we will go to my mom’s to exchange gifts with my family and have brunch, and after that we will go to his parent’s house to exchange gifts with his family and have dinner. We exchange gifts with my dad on Christmas eve.
Post # 4
I’ll be honest here, sadly this is the FIRST Christmas morning we will have spent together even though we have been living together for 3 years (and together for longer!) I am so super excited to actually wake up with him and do our own presents. So trust me, I SO feel your pain. The last few years we’ve had to do the awkward “open them at either my house or his” and some of them are personal. Not that they were secrets, but still. The only reason we “get” to do it our way this year is because we bought a house this year and are close enough to both families that we don’t HAVE to separate.
That being said, this year we’ll still be separate on Christmas Eve because his grandmother is stubborn about the time of her stuff…and it’s my Mom’s bday! Sorry FGMIL, I’m not missing my own mother’s birthday…ever. Especially since she already feels overlooked bc it’s a Christmas Eve bday.
On Christmas DAY, we’re doing our presents to eachother first thing, going to MY house from about 10-3, and then going to his from 4-? We’re going to another state (2 hours away)…to see his extended family. Yay? But we’re going with his brother, brother’s gf, dad, dad’s gf, and grandma. So yeah. That’s how they’re choosing to spend it and we’re just along for the ride.
I can’t wait to have kids. Then I can be like, “No. You can come to OUR house. Not travelling with baby.” LOL.
Post # 5
We’re always gone for Christmas eve/day (this year at my parents’ house) and we don’t want to open our gifts in someone else’s house. So, we always make the day before we leave “our” christmas and we go all out. This year it is tomorrow!
I’m making a great big breakfast and we’re having sparkling juice (my husband doesn’t drink so we do juice) and then doing our presents to each other and to the pets, then we’ll spend all morning/afternoon watching Christmas movies before having to leave to go to my parents’ house tomorrow night.
SO excited. 🙂
Post # 6
Great ideas, guys! I really want to have that special moment where I give him the really big gifts without 12 other onlookers… Maybe we’ll see about doing Christmas tomorrow 🙂
Post # 7
The gifts under our tree we will be opening here sometime on Christmas day. I find it silly to pack up all gifts and take them somewhere else when all said and done we would have to bring them all back again just unwrapped. This year we are going to my parents for Christmas. And on New Years weekend DH’s parents will be coming back from St. Louis so they will be stopping here and we will do Christmas with them then.
Post # 8
We are headed to his parents house Christmas Eve, we will spend the night, do presents in the morning and probably church – then head to my parents house Christmas Day for dinner.(they live about an hour from each other)
This will be our first Christmas as Husband and Wife and our first Christmas together. I would always go to my parents and he would go to his knowing that in the near future we would have to choose one or the other.
We actually had the conversation last night about when we would open our gifts to each other and I really wanted to do it alone since, after all, it is our first christmas married. After some discussion though we decided we would open them on christmas day with everyone else and then we will exchange with my family that evening.
Post # 9
@Sassygrn: I totally feel you. The problem, though, is that my cousin will also be getting the same BIG present that I’m giving Fiance. I got two Drew Brees jerseys autographed, and my aunt is paying me for one of them to give to her son. I don’t want my cousin’s opening the jersey to take the wind out of my present’s sails since we’re doing this all on Christmas Eve. BLAH! It gets so tricky.
Post # 10
@LizLemon: In your case, I would totally do it early! I wish we had been able to/thought of that when we were dating. The holidays just get so busy sometimes it’s nice to just be together for them.
Post # 11
Luckily my FI’s parents make it easy on us because they live on the opposite side of the country. We’ll be opening gifts with each other Christmas morning at our apartment but will be spending Christmas Eve and Christmas Day at my parents because they live 20 minutes away from us. New Years we’ve been invited to a friends get together but we may swing by my parents to make an appearance if they’re hosting a party this year.
Post # 12
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We each go to our own families, who each live over an hour away in different directions. We’re both leaving on Christmas Eve morning, so he told me we each get to open 1 present then, but we won’t open the rest until we both get home on Monday. The anticipation is killing me, but I would rather open them together, just us, and wait than ripping them all open that morning or taking them to my parents’ house. Just doesn’t seem right, after spending so much time and putting so much thought into them!
Post # 13
My paternal grandma has “her Christmas” on a random Saturday in December, whatever works out best for everyone, so that one’s pretty easy and we get it out of the way. My maternal grandma has had her Christmas on Christmas Eve since the beginning of time, haha, so we’re always there on Christmas Eve.
Before we were married, we always stayed at my mom’s on Christmas Eve night and on Christmas day opened presents from each other at her house, even though we lived together already. I didn’t like this either!! Then we would make the rounds–my dad’s house, my grandma’s, my other grandma’s, DH’s parents. It was exhausting.
This is our first Christmas as a married couple and the first Christmas we’ve decided to be home together on Christmas day. I am SO excited! We’re driving home Christmas Eve night after my grandma’s party and having a relaxing Christmas day.
DH’s parents have lost their minds this year with affairs and divorce and they are completely absorbed with themselves, so they’re not even attempting to seem as though they care about spending Christmas with us this year. Makes it easier on us, haha!!
Post # 14
Christmas is busy for us! We stay over at MILs on Christmas Eve, do a big dinner, church, and movies there. Wake up and open presents with DHs mom and siblings. Then we all (except MIL) go to Future In-Laws for lunch and presents. After that, Darling Husband and I go to my parents house which is the whole extended family – usually about 30 people. We have a huge gift exchange with my family, so it is a madhouse of people ripping into eveything. After the extended family goes home, we do presents with my family (parents and siblings) and then sleep at my parents house. Boxing day is for relaxing!
Darling Husband and I usually do our gift exchange on Christmas morning when it’s just the 5 of us (DH, Mother-In-Law, SIL, Brother-In-Law, me) because it’s the least hectic time. It will likely all change though once we have kids, although that’s still a few years away.
I agree with PPs though, it seems so silly to cart our gifts for each other to someone elses house, only to bring them home unwrapped, but I can’t get past opening gifts on Christmas Eve… it just seems wrong! So this is what works for us now.
Post # 15
We’re doing presents tonight with my SIL, her two daughters her boyfriend, and his two daughters. We’re doing it tonight because SIL and her girls are flying down to TX tomorrow, and she doesn’t want to make her girls wait until they get back on the 30th for their big presents from her.
Darling Husband and I will be driving down to his brother’s house on Saturday, and staying through Monday. This year it’ll be us, Brother-In-Law, SIL, Mother-In-Law, Father-In-Law, two nephews, and DH’s aunt. Last year we had his other brother, his wife and two kids, DH’s other aunt and uncle, and his Gram. This year Aunt D and Uncle B are overseas, Gram can’t travel because of a broken pelvis, and Brother-In-Law and his family are spending Christmas with his ILs.
The rest of my family lives across the country, and we really can’t afford to fly down (and I wouldn’t want to–we don’t get along), so I don’t spend the holidays with them. There’ll be an awkward phone call at some point.
Post # 16
We exchanged gifts with just each other tonight. We were too eager looking at all the pretty gifts under teh tree plus we know the next few days will be too hectic. I loved having this special time adn not feeling rushed. We also let our dog open his gifts, haha. Christmas Eve we will go to my mom and step dad’s house, w/ our dog. Growing up, Christmas Eve was for my mom’s family & Christmas Day for my dad’s. Also worth noting that Christmas Day is my birthday (I mentioned this in another thread, but my dad’s family is rather religious and ignore my birthday b/c it’s Christmas and it’s more important to celebrate that). If we have time we will go see my dad and my step mom Christmas Eve. I know we will stop by my aunt’s house. Christmas Day my partern works from 7am to 3:30 pm (I think!). He’ll come home, quickly clean up, and then we go to his parents.
We purchased some wine and got some Christmas movies so Christmas night we will spend some time together. We also invited some friends over the next day, so we’ll celebrate with that “family”.
Every year my partner hosts a holiday party, typically a week before Christmas. This year that was just not gonna happen due to both of our schedules so now it’s January 7th (which doesn’t work for all of our Ukrainian friends too well), so we’ll also celebrate then.