Post # 1
ok here is the deal. Our wedding is March 3, 2013. 85% of our guests are from out of town with most of them being in pennsylvania (we live in Colorado and will get married in Colorado). I wanted to send out our invites before X-mas so that if our families had questions they would have an opportunity to talk to us about the wedding while we’re home for the holidays.
on top of that, i put 45 cent stamps on our RSVP envelopes (not forever stamps, they were custom from stamps.com) and the postage is going up to 46 cents on January 27 – three days before our RSVP date!!!! so there is more pressure to get them out early and urge our guests to send them back before the postage goes up (oops!!!!)
Now i’m seeing everyone saying they’re waiting until January to send out their invites for fear they will get lost in the holiday mail…. what should I do!!?? Is this a real thing – is it statistical that more mail is lost during the holidays? or do you think it’s worth the risk to send them out early so that at least most of our guests will have the invites and if anything get’s lost we will at lesat be ahead of the game and can have time to resend the invites… what do you think we should do??
Post # 3
My wedding is 3/16 (and has the same travel situation as yours), and I’m sending my invites out in mid January. I wouldn’t send yours much earlier than that, just because they will likely get lost in the holiday shuffle! Sending them December 10 would just be wayyyy too early!
Post # 4
Although the recommendation is to mail your invitations eight weeks in advance, I had a travel situation as well and chose to mail mine eight-to-nine weeks in advance of my RSVP date (which was three weeks in advance of my wedding date.) To me, the issue of which of those three dates you choose to mail your invitations is of lesser importance than the fact that some of your reply envelopes may have insufficient postage on them at the time your guests choose to mail them. Although formal tradition does not include the use of reply cards and addressed, stamped envelopes (guests simply took out their own stationery and wrote letters politely accepting or declining your kind invitation), the fact that you are including them suggests that you should provide the necessary postage. I know adding a less-attractive, one-cent stamp to your custom stamp on the reply cards may not be your first choice from an aesthetic point of view, but I think it would be wise for you to do so.
Post # 5
Our family is traveling from Kansas and Colorado for our Oklahoma wedding. We are trying to send ours out by 12/31 for a 3/23/13 date!
Post # 6
Hmm our wedding isn’t until the 23rd, and we are sending them out early January. But with your wedding being more early and with more out of town guests earlier might be better… maybe late December? Like what MrsMaskatobe said! After Christmas!
Also, it is good manners (or at least what I’ve always seen) to include postage on your included RSVP envelopes. And the postage issue is fixed if you buy the Forever stamps, it won’t matter if the cost goes up, and no added one cent stamps!! 🙂
Post # 7
i know, the postage thing is the BIGGEST bummer – it literally goes up THREE DAYS before our RSVP date. and I didn’t relize it until after all the invitations were stuffed and sealed so it would be a HUGE ordeal to open them all up and add postage. this is definitely a problem….. i don’t see anything else to do but to spread the word to our guests and hope that they are prompt w/ their responses. Honestly, if everyone sent in the RSVP with the intent that it arrived at our house by the actual RSVP date, it would be fine. the problem is that i’m sure lots of people will wait until the last miute and mail it on or after the RSVP date…. then we’ll be screwed.
and I printed custom postage on Stamps.com so it is not a forever stamp. boooo