Post # 1
- Wedding: October 2021 - Auberge du Soleil
What are all the newlyweds doing for the holidays? Mr. PN and I have always gone to his parents for Thanksgiving and my family for Christmas. His family doesn’t really celebrate Christmas so this was always an easy choice. But, this year we are staying in New York instead of going to Minnesota because of the costs/vacation time. I thought I would be excited to avoid the travel nightmares and stay in one place but I’m a lot more sad than I thought I would be…
How will you spend your holiday? With your family, the in-laws or just the two of you?
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2005 - Westside Loft, New York
we pretty much spend the holidays by our lonesome each year since mr. bee’s parents live abroad and my family usually goes on vacation over the holidays. i don’t mind tho!
ps — i used to live in duluth minnesota! where are you from in MN?
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2021 - Majestic Colonial Resort, Punta Cana
We see Mr Breezy’s parents all the time so the deal is we always do Xmas with my fam in Alberta (who are HUGE on Christmas!). This year we decided to stay in Vancouver because of the costs and because we just saw them at our wedding… but as the holidays came closer and closer, the thought of not being with them crushed me. So a couple weeks ago when I stumbled across a seat sale and IM’d Mr Breezy about it, he told me to go ahead and book it. What a guy. I’m so happy.
Post # 5
For us it changes from year to year. All of the parents live in the same city as of this year (about 200 miles from us) and each holiday changes. This year is Thanksgiving with the in-laws and Christmas with my mom. My dad will visit us for Easter. Next year I’ve already claimed that I will host both Thanksgiving and Christmas at my home for family members. This will enable us to begin creating our own traditions in our home. We’ve never had a true tradition on where we go for the holidays since my family in particular has lived all over, including overseas for 15 years. I belive it’s already evolved into a first come, first served claim on the holidays.
Post # 6
- Wedding: November 2008 - 1930s Historic Building in Lakeland, FL
We usually spend half in upstate NY with Mr. C’s family and the other half with my family in Tampa, Florida. However, we were short of funds to fly up, which sucks b/c we’ll be missing our ski time, but it’s also nice not having to fly!
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country
Ever since I started seriously seeing Mr. Peng, my parents have tried to go on vacation during Christmas, so we always spend Christmas with his folks in Minnesota. Splitting Christmas is hard for us, because I am an only child, so if I’m not home with my parents, no one is. But, I work with my dad, so I’m home all the time, so it’s only fair to spend Christmas with Mr. Pengs parents… plus my parents don’t really "celebrate" christmas, as we are not religious (but we went through the motions… presents, roast beef, tree…) while Mr. Pengs parents are religious, so Christmas is a bigger, more traditional celebration for them. I guess I’m very lucky in that sense that my parents always take off for Christmas, so it’s not a hard choice for us to leave them for Minnesota, but once we have children it will be a very interesting (and painful) choice. I anticipate that my parents will follow us to Minnesota, which would work out great, but I hate to think of my parents spending Christmas in a hotel in MN rather than in the comfort of their own home! Marriage is hard for the holidays, indeed!
Post # 8
In our six years together before getting married we never spent a major holiday together- so this year has been different! We did Thanksgiving with my family and will do Christmas with his. I’ll miss my family. I wish they lived close enough so we could do both!
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2021 - Auberge du Soleil
Breezy it sounds like we are in a similar situation. I’m so jealous you found tickets to go home! I’m still looking at last minute flights to jump a plane to MN for the Christmas weekend but the prices are only going up…
Salex19 – What fun that you can finally spend the holidays together! I feel you on wishing you could do both. I envy couples who’s parents live in the same town.
Post # 10
- Wedding: July 2021 - Pier Sixty, Chelsea Piers
It’s my first holiday with Mr. C’s family and I’m really excited. Like Peng, my family didn’t really celebrate Christmas. It wasn’t until I was a teenager that we even had a tree! So it’ll be nice to visit Mr. C’s family and have a very traditional New England Christmas. It’s even better that I won’t have to feel bad about not spending time with my family because they don’t celebrate. But my family is really big on Lunar New Year, which we won’t have to split with Mr. C’s family because they definitely don’t celebrate!
Post # 11
My parents are traveling this Christmas, so I’ve spent the last couple of Christmases with the Future In-Laws. I love their big chaotic family… I just miss my sisters and their families and my brother!
Post # 12
I’m an only child and my husband is basically estranged from his family. We spend most holidays with my folks. He has a surragote family that we spend Thanksgiving with and will drop in for a quick visit for Christmas. It’s alot of traveling and we’re going on 8 years of doing this. I’ll be happy to be spending next year at our own home. We are planning on making everyone else come visit us!
Post # 13
the holidays will be pretty low key for us this year – for xmas eve, we’re watching the nutcracker and then having a swanky dinner out in the city. we kind of like the idea of making it a romantic night out for just the two of us!
Post # 14
wer’re pulled in all directions for the holidays. i grew up celebrating christmas eve and part of the day with my extended family (distant cousins) which live about an hour away. the rest of christmas day was always spent with my very small (5/6 people) immediate family. but now that i’m married, we include his family in the rounds. and his family lives 4+ hours away. we’ll be here, there and a bit of everywhere. but it’s not so bad i enjoy seeing eveyone!