Post # 1
I’m currently in the UK, where my partner is from, and we’re visiting her family for the holidays. My partner told me that I didn’t need to get them gifts and that they were only getting me a very small thing. Then, my first night here, I was talking to her mum and her mum was like “I hope you left lots of room in your suitcase for all the presents we’ve gotten you!” and I was like “WUT.” I had originally planned to give her parents a jar of blueberry jam I made, but sadly I stupidly forgot that liquids aren’t allowed on planes and I didn’t plan for a checked bag, so the airport confiscated it. I tried to claim it was basically a solid, but they were like “nice try, no dice.” So now I am planning to go buy something but I don’t really know how big or expensive or inexpesive it should be. My partner says I don’t need to get them anything, but I really don’t feel right accepting the apparent multiple presents they’ve gotten me and give them nothing in return. What did you all get your in-laws or future in-laws on your early holidays together? Any gift ideas/suggestions?
For background:<br />My partner and I have been together for just over a year. I met her parents last January and they are wonderful. They really like me and I absolutely adore them. They have been so lovely and welcoming and I really appreciate that they are letting me stay with them. My partner and I moved in together a few months ago and although we’re not engaged yet, I’ve bought a ring and I’m planning to propose soon.
Post # 2
I’ve gotten them picture frames, nice candles/holders they can use as decor. My Mother-In-Law is very Catholic so I got her a manger scene one year. She’s a big reader so I get her books (she likes mysteries).
Post # 3
A go to for me is pens engarved with names or initials. Everyone uses pens and a nice one (Doesn’t have to be expensive) engraved has always gone down well.
Post # 4
I second candles – always a good choice. Maybe a pretty scarf or a little holiday decoration they can put out and remember what a great holiday they had this year! Or if you want to stay on the jam route, ask your partner what some of their favorite foods are? I love getting a surprise snack that I love.
Post # 5
I’m confused… why would you be getting them a gift on your own anyways. Aren’t you doing a joint gift? Add your name on your partners gift, done.
Post # 6
Or, if you like them, take your future mother-in-law out shopping. Let her know that you had no idea what to get them and didn’t have space to bring it, so you’d like to take her out shopping to pick something out. She can probably help with the rest of the family, too. Ask your partner for suggestions of where to take her to find things in your price range she might like.
Post # 7
This. I think that if you’re traveling to a foriegn country as a couple, then your gift should be from both of you.
Post # 8
I guess I could attach my name to the things my partner’s giving them, but since I’m staying with them for two weeks, I would at least like to get them something. They’ve been so welcoming and kind. My plan was the jam- they would have LOVED it. I know they won’t want me to get them something too big or anything, but I want to get them at least something. I told them the jam story and I know they won’t be offended or disappointed if I don’t get them anything, but I just feel like I should anyway. All this advice is helpful though, thanks! Candles are a great idea, I think that might be perfect.
Post # 9
I’m getting my Future Mother-In-Law a Christmas ornament that represents the city where my Fiance and I are living. My Fiance got her a robe but I want to personalize the gift a little since they are paying for the entire wedding and have paid for me to join them on multiple European family vacations. I’m not gonna just stick my name on the robe (that apparently Fiance buys for her every year, how boring!) and be done with it. I wish I could think of something else to do for her since she has been so nice and accepting of me.