(Closed) Holiday weekend?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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pinkdaisy12:  If you give people enough time to prepare for it, then it’s fine.

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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Personally, I’m not a fan of holiday weddings.  We had 2 this year, and because I started a new job, I don’t get a lot of extra time off, so we had to give up 2 of our long weekends to attend weddings. 

Also, one of my girlfriends is planning her bachelorette for Easter weekend this coming year, so my husband already cancelled our reservations he had made for that too.

But I’m one of those people that if you’re a good friend or family, and even if it’s the most inconvenient timing, I will make sure I attend and won’t complain (in public!) about it. ๐Ÿ™‚

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

We avoided holiday weekends because it is so much more expensive to travel on those weekends + traffic is insane. I’ve only ever been to one holiday weekend wedding and it was great fun, but I was in it and it was for my best friend, so unique circumstances. Normally, I’d be slightly peeved at the added cost of travel for that weekend, plus losing one of the only few weekends my fiance actually gets 2 days off in a row. But for close friends or family, we’d suck it up. If we weren’t that close though, I’d probably skip it unless it was local.

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Honey bee

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pinkdaisy12:  My daughter was married the Sunday of Memorial Day weekend. We visited her dream venue 13 months before the wedding date they ended up selecting, and the venue was already booked for every Saturday that year, from May through September. The Sunday night of Labor Day weekend had already been taken, too.

Save the dates went out 10 months before. 225 guests attended, out of 250 invited. About 10 couples spent Friday-Sunday at the beach (about an hour away from us), and then went home after the wedding for Memorial Day picnics. Sunday nights at the venue were about $50 per person cheaper, but that didn’t influence our choice: it did allow us to host more guests, though.  

We had relatives travel up from FL and basically the only way they could attend (they never take-off work) was on a 3-day weekend.

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Sedona Golf Resort

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pinkdaisy12:  we married on July 4th-this past summer which was a Friday. We had a domestic destination wedding so it was perfect. Most guests choose to stay the entire weekend and provided us with some quality time to spend with them the day after the wedding. Only watch out is some place may charge “holiday” pricing or services unavailable. I couldn’t find any nail salon open the day of my wedding to fix a chipped nail. ๐Ÿ™

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Busy bee

I think if you are going to have it on a Sunday then the best time to do is it a long weekend-  and depending on the location people may like having a long weekend at a cool location. 

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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

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pinkdaisy12:  I think it depends on your guests. For example, I don’t ever have concrete MDW plans, so I would be fine with attending a wedding on MDW Sunday. However, I know a ton of people who spend it at the beach, etc. that would probably be annoyed by it and may choose not to attend. That’s really what you have to keep in mind – people will come if they want, but you can’t get mad if they say no because they have yearly MDW plans. 

That said – I had a wedding on July 5. I don’t think it affected anyone coming – no one complained – and our rehearsal dinner was a July 4 BBQ and it was fantastic! 

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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

We’re getting married on the Sunday of Labor Day weekend.  We asked around our family before setting the date, and the general consensus was that it is only ONE long weekend in one year, which has many more holidays. Hopefully, family will be excited to attend your wedding and not care about the weekend. It’s your wedding, it’s special, it’s huge, it will hopefully be your only one, and if somebody doesn’t want to come because it’s a holiday weekend, then in my opnion you’re better off not having them there anyway! It’s also nice for family traveling out of town because they have an extra day ๐Ÿ™‚ I say go for it!

  • This reply was modified 6 years, 6 months ago by cierrabear. Reason: edited for typos
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Depends how big the wedding is. We’re having a holiday wedding with our close family and my two best friends (not their partners) so there’s 18 of us in total. Everyone is really looking forward to it and it’s perfect for us. Everyone says your wedding day passes in a blur so I’m hoping that with less people there and three nights away (people arriving Friday evening and leaving Monday morning) we get to have a nice relaxed couple of days with the people we’re closest too.

We’re also having a big party 5 weeks later for extended family. That way we didn’t have to worry about more distant relatives and our friends being inconvenienced.

If you want a big wedding weekend maybe the way to go is to invite people to the day with the option of staying for the whole weekend. Those closest to you will want to be there the whole time anyway!

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

My family in general don’t have big holiday weekend traditions, so it would not be a big deal at all to have a wedding one of those weekends.

 

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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pinkdaisy12:  do it whenever you want! just be sure to give everyone you want to attend plenty of notice so it doesn’t interfere with any of their holiday plans. ๐Ÿ™‚

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We had our wedding on a weekend before a bank holiday (UK tradition) so not a “holiday weekend” like you would think but definitely one that was a little different. I don’t think there is anything wrong with it…just remember to give your guests plenty of warning in case they make other plans/go on holiday and book early. We gave our guests a year + notice with our STDs

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I am actually hoping for a smaller turnout due to the fact that i’m having a Friday “Holiday” wedding. All of our family members have PTO and are willing to spend some or all of that day off to join us. We know that the people we care about will be there for us so it’s not a big concern. We are fortunate to live close to all of our friends and family so it’s not an inconvenience as far as traffic.

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