(Closed) Holiday Weekend Weddings- Are they a good or bad thing?

posted 9 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Busy bee

It wouldn’t really affect us since we are usually away at our families during the holidays but I could see how having a wedding every year at those times would be annoying…it’s annoying having to be away from our house every 3 day weekend to see family…sometimes you just want to stay put!

However, we are getting married on a holiday but it’s during the week!

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I love em’ because it’s a good escape to go somewhere fun and see friends!

Bonus if it’s at the beach.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House

I love the idea of them!  We originally wanted the first weekend in September just BECAUSE it was a holiday weekend!

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

I love them too because it’s a long weekend and you get to party and have fun with family and friends, even better if it’s a destination weekend!!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I think it can be good and bad depending on everyone’s situation. I am getting married this Labor day weekend and it works out best for my family because we usually have a big picnic anyway so why not have a wedding instead? 🙂

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I really wanted to get married on New Year’s Eve, but my dad objected.  He said we shouldn’t get married on a holiday because nobody would show up.  🙁  We ended up getting married on a minor holiday (Mother’s Day), anyway.  So I guess, even though I still think a NYE wedding would be spectacular, I am ok with a minor holiday wedding but not a major holiday wedding. 

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I am getting married on January 17, the Sunday before Martin Luther King Jr. Day on Monday!  I think it’s a great choice because:  1. it’s cheaper in January, 2.  Cheaper on a Sunday, and 3: not a day when many people have family events traditionally scheduled. 

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

I would LOVE a NYE wedding!! It’s actually my dream wedding and I’d be happy if a lot of my guests didn’t come to save on costs (my family is HUGE)

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I think some holidays, In My Humble Opinion, are kinda a bad thing. For example if a couple got married on V-day, Thanksgiving, X-Mas, or New Years…I would be disappointed because those are holidays that I look forward spending with certain people & going to someones wedding wouldn’t really be what I envisioned doing on those days.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

My wedding is MEMORIAL WEEKEND next year and we did that so people can come and enjoy more time without taking too much time off work!

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

@AnnieAAA: exactly my reasoning for wanting it this day, I would feel obligated to invite my HUGE immediate family and if they didn’t come, I wouldn’t feel bad at all, more money for the guests that did come!! However, this is very difficult if you are more sensitive than me or if you have guests that you really really want to come.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

I haven’t actually ever been invited to a wedding on a holiday weekend.  I guess I’d be okay with it, but I don’t think I would choose it myself.  In fact, one of our other date options was the Saturday during Memorial Day weekend, but I chose against it.  I know that a lot of times people have their own plans/traditions for certain holidays, so I wouldn’t want to make people choose between that and attending a wedding.  Although, I do think that sometimes they make travel easier–if you have an extra day off due to a holiday weekend.  It may sound lame, but I guess I’d prefer a holiday weekend wedding to one during football season. 😉

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Personally, I would prefer a holiday weekend wedding! Then I wouldn’t have to use any of my vacation days to take off work.

If I really didn’t want to spend my long weekend at someone else’s wedding, or had other plans, I’d simply decline and send a nice gift. Simple as that. I don’t really think guests should complain about when a wedding is. To me, it’s completely up to the bride and groom to decide where and when to get married. It’s a matter of making the guests that do attend feel welcomed and appreciated, you know?

If anyone ever has a problem with someone else’s plans, just decline!

Post # 16
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Honey bee

In my family, no one even celebrates Labor Day or Memorial Day so those wouldn’t matter. Same goes for FH’s family. They’re considered 3 day weekends and that’s all. On the other hand, I have been to a couple weddings during the Christmas season (one a few days before Christmas and the other a few days after) and they both had huge turnouts, everyone had a blast, and no one was upset by them. The guests were folks that if something upset them, the couple wouldn’t know but everyone else would hear about it, and it wasn’t an issue for any of them. In the end, it depends on your crowd. Are they willing to attend a holiday weekend wedding or would they outright refuse? Those who love you will do whatever it takes to attend.

Since save the dates are popular (they didn’t used to be at all), they give people ample time to plan, schedule time off, rearrange pre-existing plans with family, etc because they are sent 12 months in advance. If someone can’t or won’t make arrangements during that time, that’s their loss since no one is forcing them to attend. That is true even if the wedding doesn’t take place around a holiday. No one is holding a gun to anyone’s head forcing them to go. If all someone is going to do is complain, they do have the right to stay home.

Obviously they’re not for everyone, but if someone wants to do that then I don’t see any problem at all as long as save the dates are sent out so people can prepare.

 

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