Post # 1
Is a wedding on a holiday weekend seen as inapropriate? I’m Canadian, my SO’s American, and I suggested that we have the wedding on the July 4th weekend in 2013, since then everyone in the US would be able to come, and all my friends and family in Canada would be able to come since that’s perfect vacation time. However, my SO and my Future Mother-In-Law don’t seem to think that people would be willing to give up their July long weekend for a wedding. The wedding wouldn’t be on the 4th, since in 2013 it’s on a Thursday, it would be the 6th or 7th.
Opinions? Would you come to a wedding on the July long weekend?
Post # 3
I think it just depends on your crew. Some people are for it or don’t make big plans, but many like to take advantage of the long weekends and put their vacation dates around it to build up a longer vacation break.
TBH, Mr.ND and I skip almost all long weekend weddings (and most summer ones) because we weekend at the same place every weekend in the summer. A regular weekend wedding is a 50/50 shot, but for us to miss a long weekend one of us is either closely realted to the person or in the wedding. It’s hard for us to skip a long holiday weekend with our family’s events to go to a wedding.
Post # 4
@indibee: There lies the root to the date question I think. Would people be more willing to come to a wedding, held in either July or August on a long weekend, or a regular Saturday?
I know our younger friends won’t have any problem coming with us, aside from the cost of actually getting there. And our family and older friends just have to deal with getting the days off to come with. Which is why we were planning on doing it in the summer in the first place, so it would be easier for people to plan their vacations around our wedding.
Post # 5
Though I’d attend a holiday weekend wedding for a close family member or close friend, I’m really not a fan of weddings on Memorial Day, Independence Day, or Labor Day weekends. Long weekends are few and far between, so we like to make our own travel plans, especially in the summer.
Post # 6
my wedding is on a Sunday so to appease people who don’t want to take vacation time off for work we are having it memorial day weekend. We still got people making off comments despite the fact that we chose the date because it was supposed to make them happy.
I think it depends on if your/his family have previous traditions for that holiday — then it might be something to think about. Otherwsie you have to do what you want, and what will work for most people.
Post # 7
@cirk: Things up here may be a little different since winters are so cold and people LOVE their summers. I know many of my friends would be more likely to come to a random Saturday wedding in the summer than a long weekend one. They’re more likely to make bigger vaca plans on a holiday weekend and wouldn’t want to ‘give up’ a long weekend. (I don’t say ‘give up’ to be mean, I was just a bride, too. Still, we had to think about what pple might skip our wedding for i.e. hunting opener, long weekend holidays, school finals, etc.)
ETA- reading comprehension fail. I see just now saw that you’re by/near ND. In that case I definitely would have to say your Future In-Laws are probably right. There are a lot of “lake pple” and “camping pple” in this neck of the woods that won’t likely go to any events on the big 3 weekends in the summer. I’m not saying no body would come, but I’d expect more declines on a holiday weekend.
Post # 8
We’re doing it, July 4th is on a Wednesday this year and we thought it’d be the perfect combo for long distance relatives to attend both a holiday with family and a wedding. Two birds with one stone if you will. 🙂
Post # 9
I’d be fine with it. Definitely would suggest save the date’s so people may plan accordingly.
And be prepared for a few people to be weird about. My mom freaked out when I suggested Memorial Day weekend and screeched that it was like Christmas weekend and we couldn’t – we have not done one special thing on Memorial day weekend in the past 5 years and half our guests are Canadian and wouldn’t be affected anyway.
Post # 10
It would have to be a close relative or a close friend for me to give up a holiday weekend. I really prefer to go to weddings that are on a regular Saturday than go to weddings around a holiday. I get why people do it, but a lot of guests have vacations planned or prefer to spend holidays with their own families.
Post # 11
A lot of it depends on where your Fiance is from and what the American guests do. As a federal employee in DC, I grumble quite a bit when family events (including weddings, reunions, and birthday parties) take away my holiday. I go, but I may whine about it to my Fiance.
But the concern I see is that it is not a holiday weekend. A lot of lower-level workers can’t take off the Friday after a holiday without penalty. That would make driving up hard if it is a distance.
For me, I would have no problem with a wedding on the 6th. The only reason why we aren’t is because of the federal holiday and that it causes prices in DC to skyrocket. Outside of DC that is not an issue, so I would go for it.
Post # 12
I would go, but I would be really IRKED about it. Especially if it was on a Saturday, smack-dab in the middle of the weekend. I think Sunday weddings on long weekends are better.
Post # 13
We have a wedding we’re going to the weekend of July 4th this year. There was never a question on whether or not we’d go but we were both a little disappointed that we wouldn’t get to spend our longer weekend doing something we wanted. For that reason I voted maybe because it’s worth it for us to come.
Post # 14
Our wedding is on a long weekend, and tons of our friends and family are coming.
Post # 15
I get very irritated by holiday weekend weddings. I know that some people may think it’s great b/c they are cheaper (you can have them on a Sunday and a lot of Sunday weddings are cheaper than Saturday weddings) but it’s kind of inconvenient for guests b/c what if they wanted to do something else with their holiday. I had a wedding around Thanksgiving a few years ago, and I was in the wedding party so I was unable to travel home to see my family that year. I had a blast at the wedding and I love my friend who was the bride, but I still thought it was a rude and inconvenient time to hold a wedding.
Post # 16
I’m planning to have my wedding over Memorial Day Weekend, so I’d be all for it. I will point out that 4th of July is on a Thursday in 2013. Some US buisnesses will give everyone the day off on the 5th because it is Friday, but some may give the day off on the day of July 4th. Just something to keep in mind.