(Closed) Holidays coming up…

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Yeah – I’ve been with him a looooooooong time (14 years – started young and in school, so here was no rush for me then ).  He told me years ago his favorite holiday was Halloween, and my birthday is mid-March, so I’ve had to try really hard not to expect anything for the 6 mo. gamut of holidays, as even a thoughtful Christmas gift is a disappointment if you let yourself want an engagement. 

I’m kinda not so much worried at this point if I’ll have any good news over the holidays as to whether I’ll ahve it ever.

This year we’ve got 6 couples who have just gotten engaged, are about to, or are having their weddings this year.  He looks at me to see how upset I am, but has no plans for making anyhitng “forever”, and we’ve had some arguments over it.  I’m having a really rough time right now.  I want to not care anymore, but it’s hard when so many other girls are worthy and I’m not.

There was a good post in “Waiting” yesterday about a letter to people who ask about whtether you’re engaged, unaware of how painful it is for you.  Maybe you can pass it on somehow to those who bug you without realizing it makes you feel anxious:

A Letter To Those Who Know a Waiting Woman.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I completely know how you feel. My boyfriend and I have been talking a LOT about it and I really feel like it will happen around the holidays, but who knows? We are taking vacation together around Thanksgiving, and our three-year anniversary is about a week before Christmas. Those are both perfect opportunities! But I don’t want to get my hopes up (well, they already ARE), because if it does not happen I will be crushed!

Post # 5
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Blushing bee

Yep! Been thinking about that all day actually. I love the holiday season and to get engaged would just be wonderful, so we can share the excitement with our families! I would also be dissappointed if New Years day rolls around and he still hasnt asked!

Post # 6
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Busy bee

A bit anxious just because the So told me a proposal could happen as early as December so I’ll be a bit nervous, but I think its not coming that soon he’s jjust trying to through me off

Post # 8
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Blushing bee

I’m really hoping for a holiday proposal. in fact I’ve tried to convince myself it will happen around Christmas just so I shut up about it until then. When those holiday jewlery store ads start playing, I definitely will be glancing toward his side of the couch to try to read the reaction.

I feel like this upcoming holiday season would be a perfect time to do it. I mean, how many more diamond necklaces can he give me? Haha. But really, the last necklace he picked out for me was a gorgeous three stone. I would have loved to pop them out of the pendant into a three stone setting. In the long run, it’s more affordable to buy a ring now than to keep buying *other* jewelry, right?

Post # 9
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Blushing bee

@yaneres -lol I do the same thing with the commercials! Or even billboards with rings on them, I look to see what he does and how he acts. Thats funny!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

Oh, bees, as if the holiday triple threat isn’t enough, my birthday is the day after Thanksgiving this year, so I’m especially anxious. I’ve actually been debating whether or not to bring it up now, or wait until after my birthday to say anything if it hasn’t happened by then. I’m trying to be strong, but we’ll see. I know for a fact, I probably won’t make it to Christmas w/o opening my trap, muchless New Year’s.

Here’s a virtual toast to us keeping it together through the holidays, and hoping that some (lots) of us will no longer be waiting after the new year. Cheers!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I’m right there with all of you!  The last couple times I brought the big E question up (the last times period, I hope, as I’m attempting to leave it be now), I was told that he has a plan and that I won’t have to wait a lot longer.  I also have NO sense that he’s bought/looked for rings, because I don’t think he’s that sneaky, but you never know.  We’re spending Thanksgiving and pseudo-Christmas (the weekend before) with my family, then going down to Florida to spend Christmas with his family.  If it doesn’t happen by then, I know I’ll be devastated – partly because I’ve been waiting so long and have run out of patience, and partly because I’ve had my mind set now on getting married next December, and if we get within a year and aren’t engaged I’ll feel like we need to push it back even further.  Sometimes I just want to tell him that he doesn’t need to plan something extravagant, because that’s really not us and I just want to be engaged to him, but I know that would just frustrate him – he wants to plan something special.  I just have to remind myself that in the end letting him do it his way will be so much more special for both of us.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I am hoping my bff will get engaged.  She has been dating her guy for 4 years I think.  I need someone to share my wedding goo with.  I am seriously anxious for her.

I got engaged in Nov on our anniversary so I think it is the month to do it!

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Ive had the Christmas dissapointment two years in a row now and it sucks! Even though its a really busy day it still makes you feel bad.  Last year we had a budget on Christmas so when I got a practical and impersonal present it really hurt.  I love that time of year its hard to hide the dissapointment when you hear about friends getting engaged!

 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

I was disappointed last Christmas. This is our second Christmas where I’ll be disappointed because of no ring, been together for 1yr and 9 months (I told him no Christmas Day proposals) but Christmas is my favorite time of the year. 🙁

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I know some waiting bees would not like a proposal during the holidays, but I’m not one of them!  I love this time of year as well, and nothing would please me more than to receive a ring and proposal on Christmas (plus it would save my guy a lot of money since I wouldn’t need any other presents to satisfy me, lol).  Here’s to hoping and wishing and praying that this holiday season is the one for all of us!!!!!!

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Yesss I am getting nervous about the holidays. I know for sure it won’t be coming over thanskgiving. Already got confirmation from my future Maid/Matron of Honor who is coming over to stay with us (she texted SO asking if he had anything planned and he told her if he had, he would have told her) so that leaves Christmas, which would be great since we’d be around our families, New Years, and then our anniversary in late January. If it doesn’t happen by our anni, I’m having a “talk” with him….we shall see!!

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