Post # 1
I just got my parents guest list and added it to the list of our friends and all FI’s family and FMIL’s peeps… holy crapola, all of a sudden it’s gotten to 236 people! I don’t even think I know more than 90 of them!
GAHHH. End rant.
Post # 3
Yep, exact same thing happened to me! It’s totally, totally out of control. I know everyone on my parents list save 1 couple, but I know my mom kept the list pretty tame to what it could have been. Mr. KM’s list was kinda a “whaaaaaaaat?!” surprise cause he said he’d only have like, 12 people. Uh huh. Sure. I just didn’t expect it to be THAT big.
Post # 4
I’m afraid to look at the final numbers, but I’m pretty sure they’re way over what we had intended. It seems that every week someone remembers someone they forgot to invite, whether its my parents, his parents or us. I feel horrible saying that I hope some people can’t make it!
Post # 5
ive found the easiest way to tackle the guest list is to start out with a maximum number of guests you want to invite. from there you can figure out who you want to invite and who you dont. we’re only inviting 150. anyone not invited is still welcome at the reception after the dinner is overwith.
Post # 6
Haha love the poll. Our guest list is totally out of control! I try not to think about it too much, or I get nervous.
Post # 7
@guffee, it started that way but my parents can afford to invite everyone, so they just said “to heck with it” and both sides kind of just went for a free-for-all. I look forward to meeting these people I suppose…
Post # 8
It did get a bit out of hand, but we have managed pretty well to tame it!
Post # 9
Ours got way out of hand. I wanted 150, and we ended up inviting 276! But, only 150 ended up coming to the wedding, so it worked out.
Post # 10
Because of the type of wedding we had and the fact that we paid for everything ourselves, we never gave our parents a piece of the guest list pie. Looking back I do actually feel bad about that, but we paid for EVERYTHING and then some, so we couldn’t have afforded more people!
Post # 11
As long as your parents are paying to have these guests there!
My parents wanted to do the same, but our venue can only fit 22 tables of 8, so 176 guests!
Our preliminary guest list was over 230 and by now would have been closer to 300 if we didn’t have the venue size restriction!
Post # 12
Yup. We keep remembering people or run into someone that we know, and didn’t plan on inviting, but invited other mutual friends, and then had to invite them that way.
Post # 13
Ours is totally out of control…my Fiance has a much bigger family than I ever knew, and since he has so many relatives, my parents seem to think it’s a competition, and keep adding people to their list! I’m going to know like a quarter of the people there…
Post # 14
- Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden
I’d say the guest list was among the most stressful parts of planning so far…it seems to me like it’s a rite of passage!
Post # 15
I honestly think people just like getting invited to weddings. I don’t know what it is… to me they’re a hassle unless you’re actually close to the person getting married!
And my FI’s family is bigger than I thought too, so it totally sucks that I hardly know ANY of them!
Post # 16
Our guest list is growing to the point that I’m starting to cross my fingers for “no” replies! And even with the exra invites I made, we are now cutting it close!!